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writes:I've been with my boyfriend for 7 months and for the first few weeks he was just a bit of fun etc and he reguarly mentioned his ex gf by saying things such as 'she's so sleezy' 'i still care about her' etc and she used to ring him up when i was with him, trying to get him back! she even came round his house to try and get him back, and although he didn't want her back i couldn't help but feel second best. I know that he loves me more than he ever loved her but recently he was talking to her on msn where he was flirting with her and trying to make her jealous, he made himself look great by saying things like "oh yeah i looked fit when you saw me" and "you've got nice boobs" and said loads of stuff which made me feel insecure and so upset.I'm not the best for confidence anyway and now I feel like I've got competition even though he says I've not, but why would he still want to annoy her, or even care about her after a year almost of splitting up? The only time i was mentioned in the conversations was when she said "you're not with her now are you?" and he said "haha no" and she replied "oh right i was going to say"they both knew exactly what they were doing :(!he's gone on to delete her and buy me things etc but i'm frightened i won't get over it as he's already put me through so much shit and he built my confidence up and knocked it right down again.How can I get over this, or even him? I can't help but feel she's either better than me or something which I'll never be
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 August 2008): It's a question of respect. A guy that is flirting with his ex on msn, talking about her boobs, etc with or without you, is not a guy that respects you. And I tend to equate respect with love. I am going through a difficult time too, as my BF is still very close to his ex, so I can really realte to you. BUt watch out that the ex-girlfriend issue is not clouding your judgment on the kind of guy he is. Maybe if you give him a dose of his own medicine he might start to realise. Start hanging out with guy friends or exes, taunt him a little like he taunts you, and just see how he reacts..Good luck!
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reader, hlskitten +, writes (19 August 2008):
 He sounds very immature and i think you're going to be lucky if you go the distance with this guy, i reakon at best you will come out of it recognising an indecisive selfish playa.
Its a toughie cuz you cant really finish with someone over something like this if you love them. Its not like you have any evidence he is actually a cheat, but i can see a rollercoaster ride for you in time.
Hope you'll be ok.
C xxxxxx
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reader, sexcbaby08 +, writes (19 August 2008):
i tend to take ages to get other things :P things will get easier though. I was with my ex for nearly a year and then we split it took me ages but i learnt now meeting my current partner that maybe there is such thing as fait and if me and him split up i am going to meet my perfect man one day:D what you have to think bout is you can rather stay with him and just live life and see if out happens like if he cheats or anything but if you dont think hes worth it or your not strong enough then i would just leave it, but talk to him and even if you take a day away to think bout it its your life your in control not the lad you seein:D
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 August 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthankyou very much, its glad to get advice from someone who has been in my situation, i don't get over things too quickly though which is what i'm really worried about!
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reader, sexcbaby08 +, writes (19 August 2008):
Hi, I dont have much confidence either i totally understand what your going through, the lad im seeing always goes on bout how his ex did this and that and im like shut up your with me not her, If he is flirting with her then you need to say its make your mind up time you rather want me or her you cant have it both ways, it might seem like a bitchy thing to say but your worth more than that, you need to think about you not him. if your not happy then dont waste part of your life on him. trust me its not worth it, i told my ex the other day that he rather has me or her and he said me so now if he talks to her hes a lier and then its over trust me girl you'll be happy:D
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