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*lliebellie
writes:Hi everyone!So here's my question.A couple of months ago i heard from this childhood friend; lets call him Fred. Fred texts me saying we should meet. So i said sure. The first time he said im sorry i cant. So we arranged about a month later to meet up again. I was really excited. At the last minute he sent me a text saying sorry i cant come. When we meet up itll be just as friends of course. Yesterday he texted me asking me how i was. I havnt replied because if i do i know he will ask to meet up again. My mum is already like just leave it because hes just playing with you. i dont want to get hurt and upset myself over one guy. I have already just got over a really horrible experience with my first 'love' i suppose you could say. So advice please. Should i agree to meet with him or should i just leave it? One more thing. A lot of you will say go for it but when i have gone for it he has always said sorry can't come anymore!!Anyway advice would be great please thank you!lolElliexxx
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reader, Tisha-1  +, writes (21 August 2008):
 Hi Ellie,
I think that you have pretty much already decided that he's not worth the effort at this point. You might as well text him back, and if he does suggest meeting up again, just reply that it's getting to be a bore that he keeps cancelling. If he wants to see you, he'll have to do better than he has been.
I think you're over-reacting a bit and taking it too personally. There may be very valid reasons for his not showing up. He is just an old friend, after all, and neither of you owe each other anything but some courtesy at this point. Don't let the horrible experience with the ex color your interactions with other men. It's not fair to them OR you.
If you do want to see him at some point, do it on your terms; invite him to a party you're throwing or something like that. Then if he doesn't show, you're not left hanging.
Good luck!
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reader, ashleee.  +, writes (19 August 2008):
hey elliee,
well to be honest he might be scared to meet you.
i knwo people who have fears of meeting up with people from his past.
instead of him asking you, invite him somewhere u will be going, like a party, or go somewhere he is so he cant avoid you. his body language will speak volumes, if he completly avoids you and goes off with his mates or another girl then move on, but he may just be very worried about meeting you with the fear u wont like him anymore.
if he is into you he will want to talk to you and be friendly.
also prepare urself for the fact that he might be thnking its no more than friends thats why he keeps blowing you off, in that case ask him why and make it clear u just wanna catch up for a coffee or something
if you see him out and he completly ignores you, dont wb to his messages and let him wonder why u arnt writing back
best way to get a guy thinking about youuu
:)
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