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writes:How can I get over someone I can never have when I have to see them once a week and they stare at me all the time? Sometimes he ignores me and acts quite rude to me. I don't do anything to provoke this right enough but then all of a sudden, when I think he hates me, he's so sweet and nice and talking to me again. How can I get over someone like this? My head tells me; he's too old for you,get over it etc but I can't deny how I feel. I MIGHT be able to fool him but I can't fool myself. I know all the bad things about him but I can't stop thinking about him. If I could find someone else I would but none of the guys my age are interested in me and if they are then up until this point they haven't bothered doing anything about it. HOW CAN I GET OVER HIM? :( I dont know if I love him. I think it's infatuation and I just feel stupid around him for feeling like this. Reply to this Question
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reader, shabby-chic  +, writes (7 April 2011):
 Hi, It could be infatuation which can be normal especially at your age. I don't deny having had a few myself. Especially when an older guy pays you attention. But you do have to be careful, people are not always what they seem, and you did mention he has some unsatisfactory history. It might be the attention you're not getting from guys your age that is driving you closer to him and not necessarily that you like him. So I would recommend you address that first. Why do you think this is?Maybe work on your confidence level, because when you feel good about yourself, others are drawn to this. So instead of considering why this guy displays hot and cold behaviours, spend this time reinventing yourself. Discover some hobbies you like, interests..things you are good at that diverts your attention from him. Then in time, you will find someone good for you, who appreciates you. But it all begins with you!Good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 April 2011): I'm 17..he is...a lot older. I'd rather not say it's embarrassing. and bad as in all the reasons why we shouldn't be together. His age is a factor of course..it really is a big age gap. I know him from our church. I just...need to find a guy my own age. I can't stop thinking about him. It's interfering with everything else in my life.
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reader, Naley1289 +, writes (7 April 2011):
 Um ok how old are we talking here and how old are you? Because remember that age is only a number but we don't want to get involved with someone too old and have him be called a pedophile. Another thing, what bad things are we talking about here? Bad like "I cheated on previous gfs before" or bad like "I killed my mom because she cooked white beans instead of red". I know it might sound like I'm joking but I'm not. Does he have a girlfriend? How do you know him?
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