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writes:What would u do if u count get over ur grandfathers death even if its been a year? I kind of dont want to get over it but it makes me upset and i take all my fustrations out on my girlsfriend. Would would u do? Reply to this Question
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reader, TELLULAH  +, writes (23 July 2008):
 Honey! You are feeling such a huge loss because its clear that not only was he your grandfather he was also your best friend. I think this is so lovely that you had such a high opinion of him, when most kids these days cant be bothered with anyone elderly. Dont beat yourself up so much, and if you want to visit him there is nothing wrong with that. Just dont let it overtake your life. You are still here and your grandfather would not want you to be sad for to long. I hope you feel better soon XXXX
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reader, Jdizzle05189 +, writes (22 July 2008):
Jdizzle05189 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI would like to thank everyone for the advice that i was givin it was good to hear what other people had to say but i dont think that it will ever leave me no matter what. I cant talk to family because it hurts them to talk about it and i have no friends to talk to.the only person i can talk to is my girlfriend and its even hars to talk to her. I know shes there and we talkk about him every know and then. But i think my problem is that i still cant beleive that he is gone. I vist his grave like how i went to go see him is that normal? But i know with me mygrandfather will never be forgotten. And for my anger i think that its just when i want to be alone or left alone someone is there and i get angery bout it i know i shouldn't because they are there but thats how it is. But thanks again for the advice and hope to see more responses. Thanks.
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reader, TELLULAH +, writes (22 July 2008):
Hi,
I lost my best mate a few weeks ago, so I know what you are going through. Its the hardest thing in the world to lose an important person in your life.
I have gone through so many emotions, anger,tears,guilt. All sorts of stuff that I didnt think I would, I couldnt explain to anyone how I felt, words could not say what wanted to come out. Do you know what I mean?
But I came on here and spoke to a few people, and I cannot tell you how much it helped just pouring my heart out. It's just so easy to tell strangers than to talk to your mates or family. Especially as family would be dealing with the same stuff as you.
My advice is the same as was given to me.
Go with the flow, and if you want to cry, shout or scream, then do it. Just try to not do it at the people who love you. It will get better, I am told in time.
Just remember why he was so important to you, and why you loved him so much. All the good things you had will eventually make you smile xxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 July 2008): Sorry for your loss. My grandad died in January of this year, so I know exactly how hard it is - Im not over it at all. The truth is, you NEVER get over it, it just gets easier as time goes on. The best thing to do is talk about him to other members of your family - the people who have lost him too. That makes it easier and will keep his memory alive. If you are REALLY ANGRY a lot, then maybe you need an anger management course? Hope it helped and good look!!!
x.Emz.x
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