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30-35,
anonymous
writes:My boyfriend isn't very confident when it comes to anything like kissing me, putting his arms around me ect. He's not normally shy but I know he is with this. At first he even needed prompting to hold my hand!When we kiss it's normally me who makes the first move, and I can tell he feels awkward with things like putting his arms around me ect.I've done sexual stuff with a guy before, so I'm fine about it. He hasn't ever done anything further than kissing with a girl though, in fact I'm the only girl he's ever kissed. He always pervs on girls (which I don't mind as I do to, being bisexual) and we joke about sex all the time, he has a dirty sense of humor. And yet when it comes to being even remotely close to doing anything vaguely sexual he gets shy.I think he doesn't feel confident because he knows I've done stuff before and he hasn't.Even when I'm really obvious that I want to go further he won't takes hints. He always pervs on my boobs and arse normally, but the other day I was with him and I unbuttoned my shirt and he didn't do anything about it. LOL.How can I make him more confident?
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 April 2011): My advice for you to gift him some sex story books or emailed some xxx story links, and do it constantly. And to read some this type of book with him. I am 100% sure this gone work, and you will enjoy the rest.
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reader, SweetSmoochy  +, writes (3 April 2011):
 He's young just like you and really afraid he'll mess up. I think with all of your hinting and such, you're putting a lot of pressure on him and making it even harder for him to get confident about it. I would suggest you give him some time and cool down the sex stuff. Be sensitive to his lack of experience, and find some other things to bond over besides sex.
When it comes to the physical part of it, maybe start doing things like gently taking his hand and running it over your breasts and body outside of your clothing. take it slower than just popping your shirt open to him.
It's highly possible and in this case probable that he isn't ready. Try talking to him about it and be sensitive about his answer.
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