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writes: After my Mother past away 8 years ago, my Dad had put away all of her jewellery so I could have it when he felt I was responsible for it. At the time my Grandmother (dad's side of the family) stole that jewellery and did something else with it. She supposedly had a talk with my Mom before she died that she was to put away those things... no one knew mom was gunna die! So Dad took her to court, and there June (grandmother) said that Dad had murdered my mom..... he didn't, she died in the hospital bed... So June won the case. Every year I've asked to have everything back.... I never do. She says to wait until I was older. K.. I'm 13 now, I want it back, it wasn't hers to mess with. Any other way then asking for moms things? I really want her wedding ring too, all of her rubys and pearls too....Thanks......
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reader, Country Woman  +, writes (12 November 2008):
 The main things that no one can take away from you are the memories of your mum's hugs and kisses and what you feel in your heart for the love she gave to you and you to her.
If you have pictures of her then you will always have her nearby.
I lost my dad in February 2007 and I truly believe in a very spiritual world and so I have seen clairvoyants/mediums and I feel that my dad is very close by for me.
I am sure that your mum is looking out for you believe me and I think she would be so sad about everything that is going on but maybe your grandmother is doing the right thing if she thinks your step mum is not a decent woman, no one can say really.
Have you talked one to one with your grandmother and got her side of the story and has she shown you the jewellery so that perhaps you could take photos of them so that you know she still has it all?
I think your mum would not want this to be your obsession right now as your school life and your teenage years need to be something you enjoy and whilst the jewellery has a lot of emotional connection with your mum that is the materialistic side of things and not the total emotional connection you actually had with your mum when she was alive.
I think if your grandmother knew how this is affecting you on a day to day basis she may let you visit her and show you the jewellery at least so that it puts your mind at rest. If she refuses then there could be something she is hiding, I don't wish to scare you but you should try to contemplate the fact that the jewellery may no longer be with her. See if you can find out the truth first of all so that you know what you are dealing with.
Jewellery can be replaced but your mum's memories cannot and you already have them and always will.
You can mail me direct anytime instead of just having this question online OK.
Lots of love.
BFN
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 November 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI dont really...but its driving me nuts. my mom ment the world to me....all i had left other then my dog, was taken from me.
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reader, Country Woman +, writes (10 November 2008):
Personally sweetheart when you are a legal age to know what you are doing with your life then maybe she may say that you are old enough to know your own mind and she may well give it back to you then.
In all honesty the fact that she has taken these things even without your dad's knowledge seems to me like she is very adamant about something and this could stem back to your step mother, maybe your mother did say something to her before her death i.e. make sure my babies things are safe for her but no one truly knows. You don't know how much your step mother is siding with you right now and how much that is truly for you or for her own personal gains.
If you ever get the chance maybe chat with your grandmother or write to her independently of your dad and step mum and ask for her side of the story and see what she writes back to you, keep the letter safe and then you will know the full truth perhaps.
More than that I cannot truly say, until you get to that point in your life will you know for your sure.
All I know right is the pain this is causing you and that is not a good thing to experience, you had the biggest pain when you lost your mum and now you are suffering badly and that can't be easy.
Just try and stay strong and positive but don't let this rule your life otherwise your life will pass you by and the fun element will be missed as well.
Always around and you can always mail me direct OK.
BFN
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 November 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionNo i havent looked up my legal rights as a minor......not yet..... its rather hard when im doin this on a nintendo ds web browers. Some sites dont load correctly i.e. my yahoo. Kristy,(step mother) we dont really see eye to eye...but in this, we do. Dad took her to court once. (as far as i know) Along with moms things she took some of dads jade too.....he didnt get anything back. The reason why june had taken everything was because she didnt want kristy to sell it for money. She wouldnt do it if she knew if ment so much to me, and dad wouldnt of let her. We where gone and came back to an emty safe(dad had it in his bedroom).... later found out what happend.
If i cant get it now... what do you think june will do/say after im 18?!
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reader, Country Woman +, writes (9 November 2008):
I'm sorry sweetheart that you have no contact with your mum's family, this whole sorry mess has escalated into something that is obviously upsetting you right now and I didn't know that you cannot even go to that side of your family for additional support.
Thank goodness your step mum seems to be a decent woman who is there for you.
This has gone on long enough and this is affecting your day to day life and making you upset just isn't on.
Have you looked into what YOUR legal rights are as a minor to try and force your grandmother to return this jewellery directly to you, does she definitely still have these items and how the courts can go in her favour is bewildering - I would have thought your dad's lawyer could hold them in their safe for you until you are an age to have them for yourselves?
Beyond knowing your legal rights I am really stumped as to how best to advise you, it isn't right what this woman is putting you through right now as you are now at an age where you feel you want that connection with your mother and the only way to do that is to have what should be yours.
I can only say that you have the support from your father and step mother and it sounds like your dad has already tried very hard to take his mother through the courts so the only thing I can see working would be for you to see how you would fair through the court system in the US to regain this jewellery. Your grandmother cannot prove a conversation I am assuming and you are now at an age where you know that this is not right. You were very young when your mother died and so yes at the time the court left the items in her possession, why I don't understand but you need to verify first of all if they are safe and still with her and not sold off or something. That is my biggest fear, why she wanted to take control away from your father seems bizaare to start with and also accuse him of killing your mother as well?
This must be affecting your emotional state and your school work and that isn't right.
You may have to let your dad and step mum do the fighting on your behalf or get the research side of things done re YOUR rights now as some years have passed since your mum died.
I do feel for you and wish I could help some more, legalities are a very tricky area as you can never know how a judge is going to decide until the day of judgement.
Try and stay strong sweetheart, my thoughts are with you to hopefully get this resolved for you.
BFN
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 November 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionDad and I dont have any contact to moms side of the family....Her mom didnt like her because she did better in life. Plus i have no idea ho moms family is...excpecialy when they live in the Philipenes...(i cant spell) My step mother, agrees that what june did was completely wrong of her. Its mine, i should have it.....wa never hers to mess with.
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reader, Country Woman +, writes (9 November 2008):
Sweetheart this is far from easy unfortunately, your dad has tried the legal route and that has not proven successful for him as he has tried to regain what was rightfully yours. I don't truly understand how she won that case but there you go.
However, is there anyone on your mum's side who can verify the jewellery was your mum's and that she had always intended for it to come to you when you reached the age of say 18 etc? If so, perhaps you could have a case, either that or see if your dad or even the internet can shed some light on YOUR legal rights as she was your mother and not her biological daughter so she have no real claim on this jewellery, however does she still have it, could she have sold it off at all?
I don't mean to upset you by saying that but it seems like she is putting up a lot of stumbling blocks to prevent it coming back to it's rightful owner, i.e. YOU. It could be held in a safety deposit box or by your lawyer/solicitor until you are old enough to have it.
It seems like this jewellery could be valuable and that is the only reason I mention all of this that's all.
It could well be a lengthy battle to regain what is rightfully yours but this is often the case where someone dies, believe me I have known this within my own family when my father's parents died and also my mum's too. Items that should have gone to someone never did and then there is always a greedy person who wants to grab everything.
Don't give up hope but be realistic as well, it can't be easy for you as you want to be close to something that belonged to your mum and losing her so early on in your early cannot be easy. I do feel for you sweetheart.
See where the law stands with a minor trying to sue their grandmother to regain what is rightfully theirs, do some research first before you go in guns blazing so to speak.
Keep us all posted eh!
Stay strong sweetheart as the greedy people in this world don't always win in the long run.
BFN
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