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writes:A couple of months ago my relationship with my girlfriend ended due to her thinkin that it was "too wierd" and that we were best just being friends. I was mostly ok with this but i did still have feelings for her even though i didnt want to. To try and get rid of this i went out a week or so after and got with a girl who i had been told previously that she liked me (incidently the night i was told this was the night i started the relationship with the other girl). At the time i thought i had pulled her because i actually had feelings for her as two weeks later we met again and the same thing happened, and i really believed that i was over my ex, and really liked this girl.However, i was at a dance with this girl last night and we got on well and talked and danced but i just didnt really feel the same way about her or rather didnt really know WHAT i felt towards her to be exact. Im beginning to think now that i was attracted in the first place by the potential of an easy "rebound" and i was only trying to convince myself that i did actually like her just to get over my ex. I also have doubts that this girl actually likes me too which doesnt really help the situation. Basically im really confused as to how and what i feel about this new girl and was wanting to see if there were any ways of making it clearer to me as it could potentially lead to her being hurt which is the last thing i want. So my question is: Are there any ways of making my feelings clearer to myself, or any ways of helping the situation?Thanks :)
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reader, SIFI212 +, writes (10 November 2008):
SIFI212 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for the help! :)I think i know how i feel now though. I spent a long time last night just talking to this girl and we got on really well, and i can really see it going somewhere. I realised my feelings arise when i am talking/with her and i think they are the kind of feelings that will get stronger the more im with her, so that seems to be the solution.Thanks for the help once again.
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reader, the one who doesn't know  +, writes (9 November 2008):
 my friend there are lots of them. you can meditate about it, you can talk about it with someone you trust, you can cast a spell upon yourself. or you can think this way: "i broke up with my ex. i felt somehing towards this girl. thne i didn't feel it when we were dancing. then i fought i was looking for a rebound. since i broke up with my ex, i liked this girl, and then didn't like her, and finally fought it could be an attempt to get a rebound, it's probably...a rebound. so i'll have to think: should i use her to forget my ex, or not?" that«s the decision YOU have to make. your biggest enemy here is your concious. so it's better to let you think...
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