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writes:Hi, I'm in love with this amazing guy and we've been dating for almost 2 years now. He loves me and he wants to marry me. I also want to spend the rest of my life with him but there's one problem. I don't think he's financially stable enough yet. He can't offer me the security that I need so I'm kind of reluctant to get married now. How do I tell him this without cming across as a gold digger or something? He means the world to me and I don't want to lose him. How can I get him to wait a little longer. Reply to this Question
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reader, audie +, writes (27 January 2009):
audie is verified as being by the original poster of the question thanx you guys, will try and do what you said. I'm just praying it won't be a mistake.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 January 2009): Speak to him explain how much you love him, but you and him needs to understand the importance of being emotionally and financially ready for this, I went through a similar thing the only difference is I wanted a baby I wanted it so bad that I didn’t realize what the implication and costs involved would be, we fought and fought and eventually I told him he doesn’t love me that s why he doesn’t want a baby, I went as far as telling him I can get anyone else who would be more than willing to impregnate me, and that was wrong, I am so grateful to him for helping me see the light before I made a mistake, financially I am not ready, both of us, we’ve been together for 6 years, tell him that you would like to make sure that you are financially ready yourself, in todays life no one has assurance that they will live to see their kids graduate, no one knows if they get into their car today that they will come home tonight, so what if you get married, and you relying on him for financial support and he dies what then what happens to you what if you have a kid? You need to look out for yourself you are right, good things are worth waiting for my angel, and you really have a strong head on your shoulders, if he loves you he will wait till you are ready
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reader, unique-angel  +, writes (26 January 2009):
Try telling him how much you care and love for him. but tell him about how the problems such as credit crunch means u might have 2 wait a little longer until you both get a higher wage.
I said both because then it may not feel like its just him, but he may get the hint.
hope that helps and im sure if he loves u as much as u have described then if he does have a moan he'll come back understanding what u mean :)
good luck
xxxxxxx
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