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female
age
36-40,
anonymous
writes:I have been with my boyfriend for quite a while now, and I have grown attached to him and he has grown attached to me. As much as I love him, I do not think I can stay with him for much longer, December at the most. Why? Because he will not get a job to pay for his school. We are both in the High School grades. However, I am home schooled and he dropped out so he could go to the same school I go too. His mother will not pay for it, and the only way to get the money is to get a job. I keep telling him that he is wasting his life. While it is a bit different, I have been in the same situation as he is; expect I did not need a job. I just wasted a few months in my life, and he is spending the time the same way I did. Sleeping until the evening and staying up all night.I want the best for him, however if he continues to be lazy (he has not even attempted to search for a job), he will not achieve his dream of going to college and then starting an automotive business. I will be forced to leave him if he does not find one soon because what if this is more than just finding a job? What if he acts like this while he is older. My question is how I can get him to understand the importance of paying for his school. (He cannot return to public school so that does not count). He will lose me as well as everything he could have if he does not understand responsibility, which he lacks as of the moment.
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reader, PM  +, writes (14 October 2008):
 If he's a decent guy then you telling him that you are willing to break up with him over this should be enough to get him moving. However, be prepared for the possibility that even if he does what you ask of him (gets a job to pay for school) that you will still want to break up with him.
Because you had to threaten him into action, he has forced you to do something which harms the basis on which the attraction between the two of you is based. Hopefully, you two can recover from it, but be prepared as it is a possibility.
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