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writes:Hello, I have an issue I need some help with. I've been friends with a guy for a while, recently our relationship has grown much closer and deeper but we haven't officially defined things. We talk about everything, several times a day. We had a terrible misunderstanding recently, we had planned two evenings out together but I couldn't make it because things kept coming up I had to attend to at work until he got frustrated and said to forget meeting, I know I hurt him badly cos he had cancelled stuff to see me and he thinks I didnt think seeing him was important enough to me. I really feel horrible and have asked for an oppty to make things right. I have apologized over and over, and tried to explain, called several times but he won't pick or reply my texts. I finally sent one a week ago saying I understood he needed time to cool off and to get in touch when he's ready, its 12 days now, and nothing yet. I miss him so much it hurts. What do I do? Do I try calling again, texting or just bear the pain and let him be?
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 November 2011): If I made 2 arrangements with a girl, and she cancelled both of them last minute, but gave me valid reasons and was apologetic and really wanted to make it up to me, I would understand how that can happen and give her the chance to set things right. Relationships are not defined by whether or not they have problems, all relationships have problems, the thing that defines them is how the people deal with the problems when they do come up. This guy has shown how he deals with them, and he doesn't deal with them well. This is a small example of a small problem, how do you think he will deal with bigger issues. His attitude is unempathetic and mostly, manipulative. Or he just isnt interested. He isn't relationship material, let him go.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 November 2011): Personally I would just leave him to it you have done all you can to say you are sorry he may still be angry give it time I'm sure you will hear from him soon good luck
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