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writes:im going to try and tell you our story without making it long. from beginning to end.. in the past six months.. he has left three different girls for me even after i hurt him more than once. he took me back six times after i left him. but the last time he came back, we actually stuck it out, and we dated. he has alot of trouble opening up and he hides his emotions very, very well, but he opened up to me and met my parents, they love him. we are teenagers. and well, we fell in love. dont say your to young for love, that really not what i want to hear, so please dont.he doesnt know how to handle his stress at all. in the beginning of our relationship i got jealous over nothing and he said it upset him so i worked on my jealousy and didnt say anything else. he broke up with me two weeks ago for the first time out of stress but he asked for me back that night and told me what happened. but after that he put his wall back up, and i was frustrated so i was complaining alot about stupid things, not anything big. but since his wall was up, i didnt know that he was stressed about things at home. so i was slowly just adding onto his stress.. and then this girl macy said something to him last week and it made me jealous so when he asked me what was wrong i told him and macy made a big huge deal out of it. it was so stupid but its like that just topped it off for him, he broke up with me saying that he couldnt do it anymore and his excuse later was that he cant handle a girlfriend right now and when i asked him if there was any hope he said "not anytime soon..." and so, everybody was telling me to give him his space but not too much space so i would text him every now and then to let him know that i love him and i am here for him, but no reply. and well, lastnight he ended having to take me home from a game. he kept looking at me that way that he used to. and he asked me what was wrong. but he would stare at me with that look, if you have ever been i love then you know what look im talking about. it makes you go warm and your heart go wild.. while we were in the truck he was looking at me like that more than once but then he leaned forward and so i asked if i could lay on his back and if that was fine and he said yes and i was laying on it and drawing, it was like as if in that moment you could FEEL that we both wanted to be together but we couldnt. oh, and he doesnt even look at me in the halls at school.. idk why.. but there is alot going on in his life right now though, he is failing three classes, he has started working little dribblers and he does mixed martial arts and ju jitzu, and he also suffers from seasonal depression in the winter. his step mom is pregnant and that is a biggggg thing for him, he is extremely stressed about that. at school he passes me in the hall and doesnt even look at me, but my bestfriend says that at lunch she catches him looking at me all the time. idk.. oh and at the game, he was sitting with one of his ex's and i didnt ask him or anything, but he texted me and said that they were JUST friends.. so.. idk if that means anything, just throwing that out there. i want to be his friend if anything though, i miss laughing with him and joking around. i miss hanging out with him and seeing his smile, its really rare now and days. i told him that in a note, since we used to always write notes, i wrote him one today and told him that i want to hang out and stuff, and that it doesnt have to be wierd i just miss talking to him and seeing his smile. i just want to see him happy, i miss that. but i do want him back, i think if i give him some time.. he will come around. hes getting his phone taken up in a day or so.. idk if this makes any sense but i think that could speed up the process of him coming back? no, that doesnt make sense, but him not having his phone, and if i just dont talk to him at school and give him his space.. i think maybe he will come around, but i want to know what you guys think i should do, and how long you think it will take, and what you think about the situation in general like, how he feels about me any stuff.. please and thank you! i am a horrrrible story teller and i tried to tell this one as best as i could, i know that i skipped around alot and im sorry but. if you could just answer my little questions.. thank you so much. it means alot.. :)
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reader, wornoutmommy +, writes (27 January 2011):
 ok, first off you say that you're 18-21 but you're talking about high school stuff, right? You're right, young love can and does happen- but only when you're mature about it. You say that he's 'taken you back 6 times after you left him'!! What is wrong with him? Why did you leave in the first place? You've left him half a dozen times, then you get jealous about him being around other people (it is a high school, they're typically full of boys and girls). He does have a lot on his plate, especially if he's having a half-sib soon. His home life is stressing him out so much that it's reflecting on his grades, which makes his stress worse. Having a girl nagging at him about a relationship is the last thing this poor guy needs! He came back how many times before- give him his space and time and if it really is young love and you're mature enough to stop being jealous and be considerate of his situations, then it'll work. I'm not saying it's a forever done deal, but maturity has a big thing to do with it.
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