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writes: My girlfriend keeps asking me to buy her diet pills (call me fashion old but they don't to sound healthy to me) , I got mad and usually storm out of the room. She's 18 about 5'8 and weights 100. I think she's feeling pressured from her friends most of them are very skinny and they can eat a lot but that's because they work out and they play sports almost everyday. How can I get her to stop? Reply to this Question
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reader, TELLULAH  +, writes (2 December 2008):
 Try to explain that they are not the way to lose weight. Most people find that when they take them, the weight falls off quickly, but can go back on even quicker and she will find that she will put more on.
The best way to lose weight is to eat healthy and live healthy. It will have a much more lasting effect.
And to point out what one of the other aunts have already said, your girlfriend is by no means over-weight.
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reader, katatonik  +, writes (2 December 2008):
 If she's 100 lbs at 5'8," there's no way she needs to lose more weight. She is actually grossly underweight. 100 lbs at 5'8" gives her a body mass index of 15.2, when anything less than 18.5 is considered underweight. At her height, she needs to weigh about 120 pounds to make it to the low end of the "healthy" spectrum. Please keep refusing her requests that you buy her these pills. Keep an eye on her health and eating habits as well, if you can. It sounds like she has issues with weight and self-esteem and these can become very serious, even life-threatening (anorexia, bulimia, etc.) if left to progress.
Reassure her that you love her the way she is, that you think she is beautiful, etc. Criticize her friends' appearances to her, if you have to. If she hears, coming from you, that the skin-and-bones look isn't actually hot, you have a chance of breaking through to her. Chances are, she's so concerned about her body because she wants to look good for you...as messed up as that may be. Good luck.
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