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writes:This Girl is the most beautiful girl in the world, I really do care about her a lot actually, and I don't want no one but her, we are not officially dating but we are getting close and I am wondering if I am on the right path to pursuing this goal of making her my girlfriend.I feel so happy when I am talking to her, like god sent me my wish of a girl who was made just for me, she's charming, smart, and really just adorable, and i could honestly go on and on about how special she really is, ok here is the thing, she has feelings for me she just now told me this today and I'm excited and the best part is that her feelings that she has for her boyfriend are fading away, he's constantly playing her, I've known this guy for years we went to high school together, he's a total jerk towards the girls he dates, he does nothing but play them. I showed her proof that he's a player by creating a fake Facebook posing as a hot female and talking to him.I have high confidence that she's going to be my next girlfriend, I've been here for her for a while, i always cheer her up when she's sad, I always attend to her, like if I am doing something and I get a text from her I will automatically stop what I'm doing and talk to her, really do like her, How can I show her that I am a better guy then her jerk boyfriend??? how can I get her to fall into my arms and leave that guy, he is obviously not right for her and I like her more then anything, she's really the only girl I talk to, I Stopped fooling around with females and became more immature about this, I don't want nobody else, that's how much this girl means to me, Can you help me out on this?? How Can I Get Her To Realize I'm The One For Her?
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (8 December 2013):
 You've done enough selling yourself as a nice guy. She has to want to break up and completely move on, then you can talk. You want to take it slow to make sure you are not her rebound. She can be charming and smart on the outside but love can be blind and make someone dumb. You are seeing her good qualities for now so as you get to know her you are bound to see some undesirable ones. Make sure she is as attentive to you as you are to her.
I think getting with her is no problem. The challenge is making it last. When you fall deeper you may run into challenges such as wondering what she and her ex did together, and being a little jealous that he hit her first. Are you prepared to deal with the unpleasantness once the infatuation period dies down? You are the one for her if your courtship does not end. You continue to chase her even when the relationship gets comfortable and you don't get resentful that she had been with other people. She is the one for you if she is totally happy with you and can devote to you.
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reader, sallyanne  +, writes (8 December 2013):
Hi. Just read our post and would like to offer my advice. This girl that u mentioned sounds really nice and I can tell u have a lot of feeling for her and from what u have described and said she obv has them for u . I don't fink that u have to make her relize she should be with u I think she already has but might not want to rush into it I would say give her time and u will both have a amazing future together but do NOT try and force it as it will push her away. Good luck x
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 December 2013): First off, setting her boyfriend up on Facebook says you have a devious side. That's not cool. Going after a girl who already has a boyfriend isn't too cool either; no matter what your opinion of her boyfriend is. Why hasn't she left him on her own, if "she" feels he's such a terrible guy? Her feelings are fading? That is, until she breaks up and notices he's dating someone else.Watch how quickly her feelings and attention will return him.I think you might want to come back down to earth, and stop building her up so high. It's a bad idea to put people up on a pedestal. By granting her the status of a goddess, she will disappoint you when you discover she is a mere mortal. She will be forced to live up to your high expectations, and she doesn't need that kind of pressure. She's a lovely girl I'm sure; but keep it real. Perfect people deserve other perfect people. How do you hold your end? Is she getting the greatest guy in the world? Part of your attraction is, people want most what they can't have. The temptation to steal, will force some people to do unthinkable things to get what they want. Lies, seduction, deception, and worse. It has to be her decision to leave the other guy. If and when she ever does; she will need time to get over the breakup. She will not be ready to fall into your arms, or the arms of anyone else. A recovery and healing period comes after a breakup; and any quick relationship thereafter; could just be on the rebound.You are far too infatuated, and too eager to allow time for all things to grow naturally. You've stooped to sabotaging a relationship to get what you want; instead of letting the girl make the conscious choice to break up with her boyfriend and come to you.If she breaks up with her boyfriend, she will remember in the back of her mind how you set him up. She may feel guilty having this knowledge, and feel like she was a part of the conspiracy. This might backfire in your face. If not now, maybe later on. She may not trust you after seeing what you're capable of.All this really boils down to; is YOU getting what YOU want. Let's just hope she's as wonderful and fantastic as you think she is. Can she easily end a relationship with one guy and start a new one, just like that? She doesn't mind stepping out on her present boyfriend? Ever heard of the word "entrapment?" That was foul-play!You'll be insecure about your new relationship; based on such an easy transition from one guy to another. Once you get what you want, I'll be on the lookout for the next post regarding your inability to trust her. She continues to text her ex!I hope if she breaks up with him. You'll allow her time to be sure of her feelings for you. Her feelings and emotions will be all mixed up and conflicted. She'll go back and forth between the two of you. She will be really upset when he starts dating other girls. When he finds out you're quickly in the picture after the breakup, he'll put two and two together. He'll figure out you were after his girl before they broke up. You might get your ass kicked.You had better hope she doesn't spill the beans about the setup on Facebook. Pretending to be a hot chick to entice another (straight) guy, works out pretty badly for gay dudes. If you're ready for all that, good for you. Best of luck!
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