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*luenee
writes:Its about my life..please read below n advice me...We(me and the girl whom i love..lets calld D) became best friend just two weeks before..it's been a year we became close to each other.. Just before a year. We'd been to educational tour from college.. And after that we became closer. i knew she had bf.. And that time i was in relation with next girl L.Just as a fren..me n D used 2spnd times..we go4 walks n phone calls n sms.one day i realized..she likes me.. But i ignored coz i was in relation with next girl L.Then after a month i got break up with L..then i told this to D.. Actually she was unknown about my relation with L coz i had promised L not of telling about it to others..after that we all moved to next city for study. There we stayed for four five months n i was in pain coz of breakup with L..I these time D helped to get rid of grief,i was in.we shared time together.one day i felt like i was liking her..crush on her..i told her about it..i said her i don't wanna get love from her but just shared it coz we're close friends..and as i thought,c too had crush on me.. i came to know by her that before 1month when she knew i had gf,she left her feelings go off..Then we kept on sharing lots n lots of time together..watched romantic movies together too,i used to leave her to the place where she used to stay..then we both started expressing love.it used to be very hard for us to separate. In four months,only about two days we were out of contact.we use to say bf n gf 2 each other since our first month of being close friend..but it became the reality.. But next thing is that she is in relation with next guy too..his existing bf lets say S..she used to meet her just sometimes and she knows i feel bad about that..Then she went to abroad for further study..I ws with her on last day and first night too to see her going off at 2am in the morning..i know her family members and they do know about me too..now also we chat for at least three hours a day..then fb mail..sharing i love u n i love u too..n just before two weeks she asked me to be her best friend..n i accepted it.. She knows i love her more than she does to me.. I didn't know what was propose..Once i said her i love u and it was propose..but she did nothing n no response.. Later i knew its actually meant the answer and making choice.while chatting ..we discussed about it..then coz of her i really proposed her..she didn't say.. she felt bad..she said she loves me but she is not choosing me.she says she can't leave her existing bf..she wants to leave him i guess..i think she is worried what if S do something..once he tried doing suicide too..n bla bla.. But i 'm seriously in love with her and she knows i want her to accept me..and she feels bad too that she's not accepting me..she feels bad when i talk about my ex and other girls so do...my friends saying me not to be serious. She 's playing with you and bla..and i 'm against it. Its me who 've known her since a year ..if anything happens she'll too suffer too..coz she loves me too.. About me and her we've told to only one friend..D wants it not to be known others.. Just two days ago oe of my close friend,asked me about D and me.i said we're just close friends..n he asked me what if i 'd to chose between him and D...actually if i had to then i will D..cos she is everything for me Now please say me what to do.. I want her(D) to choose between me and his existing bf(S)..but i don't wanna hurt her by asking it.We have already talked about this thrice.i love her and i can't bear loss of her. I can't see her being of other.. I can't..I cant share her with other guy like this.... Please help me. If possible.
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reader, Aluenee +, writes (9 January 2011):
Aluenee is verified as being by the original poster of the questionGetting back off is the better way na?
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reader, Aluenee +, writes (8 January 2011):
Aluenee is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWhenever this discussion goes on she asks me "you say na bf, what should i do?" she doesn't want to talk about any other guys with me.. She feels bad .. She wants just me and herself..
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (7 January 2011):
 Sorry, I tend to agree with your friends, I believe that she is keeping you around out of more selfish reasosn than true love. She SAYS she love you, and who knows, maybe she is even in good faith, she believes she loves you, but, at the end of the day, she is still with this S guy, and has no intention of leaving him. Actions speak louder than words.
You say that you want her choose between you and S, but she already did. Thrice. You discussed three times about this issues and the conclusion was.... that she is still with S. So, you have your answer, even if she did not say it in so many words.
That should tell you it's really time to move on, whether you like it or not.
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reader, tennisstar88  +, writes (7 January 2011):
 Probably because they can't understand your post. Try using correct English words instead of "text speak".
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reader, Aluenee +, writes (7 January 2011):
Aluenee is verified as being by the original poster of the questionIsn't there anyone to help me
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