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female
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36-40,
anonymous
writes:i am not married to my spouse but we live together and we have 2 children. sometimes we get so mad at each other that is gets violent and then he ends up breaking up with me and says that he cant take it anymore and now he wants me to move out and i don't know what to do. he is hardly ever home and i dont have a job so i stay at home with the kids and i get so stressed out because he is never there for me to talk to him. we dont communicate anymore and i dont know what to do. i love him with all my heart and he tells me that he loves me but he is not in love with me anymore. what should i do? how can i change his mind? i really need help. someone PLEASE HELP ME.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 June 2007): Hi, you sound like you are in a miserable situation, with no job and home alone with two small children and a man you are not married to treating you with abuse.
That is right, abuse, if your relationship turns violent, think what this is doing to your chidren, even infants are affected profoundly from violence in the home. Those kids, not that sorry sob of a man you live with are your number one first priority....Seek some help from an abused women's shelter, and have them help you get out of the home with your kids and your lives intact....then you will need to do the work to learn the skills to get a job and support yourself...It won't be easy but this is the best thing for you and your children....they don't deserve to pay for you and your man's mistakes, nor do they deserve to live in this loveless marriage.
Why on earth do you love him if he is violent towards you? Your self esteem must be at an all time low...it does not have to be this way, you are the only one who can take the bars down from this self imposed prison that you are in.
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