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writes:me and my ex have split 4 months ago due to certain incidents, I was a rite dick to be fair. We had a brief moment where things were going well. I've changed so much since we split and I realized how much she means to me, we have a baby together i want her back but dont know what to do, I've tried telling her; talking to her but i cant get through to her and make her see. Her family really dislike me which I feel is not helping, any suggestions would be much appreciated many thanks podda
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reader, xxxsoulsistaxxx +, writes (28 March 2007):
 You've obviously hurt her very badly and she needs to realise you have changed and that you deserve a second chance. Would you give yourself a second chance? If you really want her back, it's going to take a lot of effort but it sounds to me like it could be worth it if it gets the family back together. But all I can say is be sure this is what you want. If you go back and mess things up again, you could break her heart so badly it never heals and she can never be happy again.
If you know she's what you want, you can't let her get away. Forget what families and other people say, it's what you two think that matters. Once they see you've changed and are going to make her happy, they should come round. If they don't, who cares as long as you two are happy?
Leave her alone for a bit and make the changes you want to make in your own life. Be the man she wants you to be so when you do see her again, you're everything she wants in a partner and this shows her you are serious and really want to change. Do whatever it takes to make her see how serious you are and how much you want to be with her.
Once you've sorted out you and you know this is what you want, make contact and ask if she wants to meet. Don't pressure her or anything, just chill and make her comfortable. Once she see's the new you, she may start to see herself with you again. I think she would also like a proper apology for the things you've put her through and I think it will take you this time apart to work out exactly what to say.
Whatever she decides, you must respect that. You have a baby so things need to be as calm as possible between you two. If she takes you back, great, I hope you've learnt how much you want her and make each other very happy. If she's moved on or you've just hurt her too much, walk away with your head held high, knowing you tried and did all you could. I wish you both all the happiness in the world. It's nice to see someone who's seen the error of their ways and who wants to change.
Good luck and I hope you're serious about this.
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reader, home_land  +, writes (28 March 2007):
 hello
i think all of that becouse you are only talking you have gf child so that means you have to be a man do wht men do
no proises and you say sorry to her and her family and ask her for a chance.
good luck
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