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writes:My ex and I broke up a while ago (6 months) and I have tried to see if we can work it out. I spoke to him over the weekend he was just so angry... I did handle the breakup badly, but so did he in a way. He was saying awful things like I was just a rebound for him (we were together for 18 months - he is 30 and I am 26) and that I was no friend to him (neither was he after we finished) and that he never wants to see me again, meet up, etc etc. I know he is just angry, but then he finished it off by saying that he will call me if he changes his mind, and of course I was crying and he softened a lot as I know he hates hurting people. I really miss him and I want to work it out and I am willing to do a lot, but not put up with being yelled at. I told him that people who have affairs can work it out so why couldnt we (I never cheated and never would) and he said that was different as they had something to go back for in the first place. I know him and I know he doesnt mean these things. I still love him and want to try to get through to him. Does anyone have any suggestions? I am going to give him a whole lot of space now, and see how I feel later on, but I know I am not going to be able to stop wanting to work it out. He has accused me of being selfish but I dont think I am. We were great together and had something brilliant (which he trivialised also - I made him laugh so much and he thinks that isnt important, it is so important)... I am over the bad things and everything went wrong as it has been a while and want to go forward with him but he isnt listening... or wanting to listen. I get the feeling he is just punishing me for being awful after the breakup. Help?
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reader, steven 25206542 +, writes (9 May 2007):
 to be honist i am kind of going thro the same thing and it hurts like hell u keep thinking if u could only spend like 2 hourse with them u could help them understand u and u would get back together but well it probebly anint gonna happen ano its hard but your just gonna have to move on but hey u never no if u move on he might startmissing u the fact of the matter is the balls in his court he can go out and go with other women then get back with u he now nos this dont give him that power just get out enjoy yourself and try playing the feild meeting other people u never no one day u might meet up with your x u never no but come on darlin lifes just to short to be waiting on him get out and have some fun xx
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reader, eyeswideopen  +, writes (9 May 2007):
 I guess you have the choice to sit around and wait for him to call or get busy with your life. I'd do the latter because if he never calls at least you haven't wasted valuable time. Good luck.
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