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writes:hi, this sounds really stupid but i need help on how to get an old boyfreind back we split late last year, he ended it, but i still have feelings for him, guess it was because he was my first. but ive still got his number and know where he lives but not sure if ive got the guts to do it. is there anything else i can do like use a different number first to see. we where only out for at least 4 weeks and he was so more experienced then me, and ive only seen him twice since we splitthanks for all the help
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reader, buddys  +, writes (24 January 2008):
 It's a hard thing to do, but I usually choose the 'heart-on-my-sleeve' route. Just flat out tell him that you miss him, wish things could be more, and that you'd like to try to work things out between you and him. Tell him to think about it for a little while, then get back to you. If he's interested or wants to discuss it further, he'll call back in a reasonable amount of time (maybe 2 weeks or so). Then you'll have your answer. Saves you months of trying to figure out how he really feels. If he's not interested, you can move on for good.I used to have that feeling about my first. But then I realized it was because I had never experienced those feelings for some one before, or been intimate with some one in that way. I missed the connection, not the person. If you choose to move on, you will find another guy who will return your feelings.
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reader, Lily Moll  +, writes (24 January 2008):
My advice is pretty much an elaboration on rcn's advice above. Call him to "catch up," and feel out the situation from there. Just talk, and if it goes well, you could ask if he'd like to hang out sometime.. or perhaps, just end it with, "It was good talking to you. We should talk more often," give him your number, and take it from there. You could just talk on the phone at first, and take it as a good sign if he calls you on his own. Or you could just take the plunge and ask if he wants to go out for coffee or something. Though if it's been awhile since you've seen each other, it might be good to sort of get re-acquainted on the phone before asking him out.
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (24 January 2008):
 Call him up and ask him out , or just talk to him to find out if he still wants to be friends. No venture , no gain. If he does not want , try next time.
You can check out where he goes everyday and then accidentally meet him....
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reader, rcn +, writes (24 January 2008):
 You have some issues if you think he's more experienced than you are. Expereince has nothing to do with the ability to. You can't look at life that way. Do you think people who really fall in love, are love experts before they do?
Why don't you pick up the phone, dial his number (and don't hang up when he answers). Don't act real anxious or consumed by him. That's a tad bit psycho if you do and you'd only scare him off. Ask him it he'd care to join you for a cup of coffee, or a coke so you can talk. It's non-threatening. That's what I'd recommend.
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