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writes:My girlfriend and I have been together for nearly 2 years. And in that time, we've taken things really slow. Mainly because I'm the first guy she's ever dated. I've never minded the rate at which our relationship has moved because I love being with her.She gets nervous a lot. Like when we first started seeing each other she was nervous to even hold my hand. I think it's cute, but even though I make what I want clear, I haven't (purposely) pressured her to do anything. This has included sex. When the topic first came up, she told me she was a virgin and that she wanted to wait. She never told me how long or if it was until she was married or anything like that. But I was okay with that and we never talked about it again. But a few months ago she brought it up and said that she wanted to have sex with me. Obviously I was happy about that, but I wanted to make sure she wanted to, so I waited like 2 more months and one night we were making out and it was getting a little intense (more than ever before) and I asked her if she wanted to have sex. She said she did. So we did.I'm honestly not a pro or anything and didn't really know what I was doing (I had only done it twice before), but I tried to go slow and I talked to her through it because it was clear that it hurt her. I kept asking her if she wanted to stop but she said no.When we were done we kind of just laid there. She was really quiet and I was scared I did something wrong, so we laid in silence for a while. Turns out she was crying. When I realized this I tried to help but I she ignored me. I didn't want to leave her like that and so I stayed until she asked me to go.That was like two weeks ago and since then we really haven't seen each other much. Which is the worst part because I miss her. I feel like she's avoiding me and I don't know what I did wrong or what to do to make it right. Does anyone know how I can fix this? Reply to this Question
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reader, Dangerously Enthusiastic.  +, writes (21 August 2012):
 I'm not sure why you have left it this long..
You have made it worse.
Talk to her and ask her what she thought about it and if there's anything you can do.
Explain you don't know why she was upset but you want to know why so you can help her.
Pfft, men.
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reader, JustHelpinAgain  +, writes (20 August 2012):
Good grief, go to her, tell her you miss her, don't say sorry, don't make it sound like you did something wrong or regrettable. Just tell her you love her and want to be with her. How can you have waited so long??
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reader, BondGirl72 +, writes (20 August 2012):
 If you haven't contacted her you need to do so. Women expect men to take the intiative and a lot of men don't. This makes us think you don't care and we should move on. You shouldn't have waited two weeks. If she really likes you, she is probably hurting. Sex is a very emotional thing for most people, and she was obviously emotional when she had it with you. You need to talk frankly about what exactly happened that night. If you care about her you won't ever let two weeks go by again without talking to her, much less two days.
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