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*ly897
writes:My boyfriend and I have been together for over a year now. In the beginning sex was almost nightly. Then his roomate put restrictions on how much I could be there. That stressed him out and he felt as if he was being controlled. Sex began to dwindle to once a week. Then in August we moved in together sex was still once a week. Then in January he fractured his ribs he was in alot of pain, sex was nonexistent. After two months we began the once a week thing again. After a couple of weeks he was working on the lawn mower and pulled a muscle or something a month later we had sex again. Now he has been diagnosed with high blood pressure and diabetes. The doctor told him the spasms he was having was due to his kidneys. He is also under a great deal of stress between his work and he barly makes enough to make ends meet. I have been in school and only bringing in financial aid. Now school is out and I am looking for work. I beleive that bringing in more income will aleive some of his stress. He is also bipolar and on medication for it. I know and understand stress and health issues have a great effect of mens arrousal. I am very understanding and keep these feeling to myself because he doesn't need anything else to worry about. But I am in my prime and have a very high sex drive I take care of things myself and he knows it. But I need more intamacy along with it. I feel rejected and have a pity party, then I feel guilty for being selfish and wanting more than he can give. He is a very passionate man and always holds me when we go to bed and throughout the day when he is home. He loves to cuddle, but when I am feeling this way when he holds me it only hurts more. I love him and would do anything for him. Throughout these past few months I have told him my feelings and it usually results in some kind of sex. But I feel guilty for it. Please help give me some kind of clue as how to fix our sexual relationship.
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reader, sly897 +, writes (8 June 2009):
sly897 is verified as being by the original poster of the question Let me clarify some things. I August He and I did move into our own place. Also we are not having sex it has been 3 weeks. I have a high drive I do take care of business myself but it is not gratifying it only aleives some pressure. I do tell him what I want and I don't beat around the bush. I flat out tell him I want him I want to devour him. I am a woman who truly enjoys eating a man and his "protein too"LOL. He is amazed. He won't even let me please him he says it is not fair to me. I tell him I do get pleasure from it. So I am going more than half way. I need the intamacy. More than cuddling.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 June 2009): Your guy has so many things going against him in regards to sexual relations. Health problems, stress, bi-polar, no work identity and not being able to fulfill his woman. I almost feel sorry for him. I think at this point the only thing that can help is time. Time for some of these issues to work themselves out. It is surprising with all he has going wrong that he thinks of sex at all. For now, you will have to do alot of work to keep the sex going....it will be up to you to initiate when you have the desire. It will also be up to you to take care of yourself at times (aka masturbate). Help your man to the best of your abilities to alleviate some of the stress and burden that robs him of his desire. Never, and I mean , never express any dissatisfaction when you do have sex as that will make things even worse. In fact, if I were you , I would make it a point to express how happy these short encounters make you, and be sincere about it!You are in a tough situation right now, but everything changes and hopefully things will change for the better for you. Good luck!
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reader, Ooh no +, writes (8 June 2009):
Well for starter you guys should conceider maybe the roommates feeling as well he didn't sign up for the two of you as roommates so for you to be their nightly my be a bit much. It not control its respect. Maybe you guys should create a shedule. An if that doent work mybe aplace together might be a option
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