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writes:My marriage of 8 years has gone to crap. My great wife said that she can't take anymore and wants me out. We have two kids that i love very much. I am the cause of this whole mess and will do anything to fix it. Have going to doctor and discovered that I am Bipolar, and in the process of getting help for this. I dont know if this is the problem or just me. I want to work this out and rebuild our marriage, but she keeps on saying that it is over. I am sure that there is not someone else in her life. This is my second marriage, and she thinks I am still in love with my exwife, even though I have not spoke or seen her in over 8 years. Please help, what should I do, move out and consider it over or try to fix this.thanks
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reader, jabey  +, writes (28 January 2007):
its very difficult to comment without too much detail. What is it that your wife cant take much more of ? And why would she think you are still in love with your ex? Have you been showing her lots of love? without all these details its hard to answer. if you do really love her. Then show her this in anyway possible. Try to make time to go out and have some fun together. Can you get sitters? Compliment her lots, remind each other of what you had together when you first fell in love. A weekend away, just the two of you. Does she still say she loves You ? If she does then you have something to build on.
Marriage counselling together can help.
But as I said earlier without too much detail its hard to really advise. Let me know and perhaps I can give you some further insight.
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reader, Ohboy +, writes (28 January 2007):
 Hello, I'm sorry that your going through such a rough time in your marriage. I understand that you love your wife very much and nothing is more painful than being treated in such a way by your significant other. Has she ever agreed to go to counseling with you. If you haven't been to counseling I suggest you go. If you've both already went to counseling and had no success, you may want to consider the phrase ... "Absence makes the heart grow fonder". Another alternative maybe to take her away for an evening or a weekend. It doesn't have too far away or even too fancy. The purpose is just so you may have time to get to know each other again.
Good luck!
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reader, xLEAHx +, writes (28 January 2007):
 Talk to your wife and see whether she really wants your marriage to work,we all say mean things to each other and all have our ups and downs you really need to know whats happend in your relationship and why she feels this way, but maybe deep down she still loves you,but is just very unhappy with the way things are.,talk to her and see if she would be willing to go to marriage guidence,maybe thats what you need to sort out your problems and get your marriage back on track.
Good luck xLEAHx
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 January 2007): Give her what she wants - you seem like a nice guy who's putting in a lot of effort with a girl that doesnt want to give her 50%. I say adeos!
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