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writes:iv been with this guy for a year now an when we got together it was just out of fun but then i got preagnt 5months later then lost it 2 weeks after anyway we havent been getting along for a while an it seems like he doesnt even want to be with me anymore an when i ask him if he wants me to leave he says that he doesnt care an i know in my heart that he never really did to begain with an his not very nice to my little boy always calling him names trying to control me . an yet i still love him an i dont know why . please help me why cant i find someone who will treat me right. Reply to this Question
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reader, happy1day  +, writes (25 July 2013):
Hi, you need to look at what you want and need in a man/relationship. Write down five things on a bit of paper that you would like this man to be like, things that are important to you. This could include....some one who makes you laugh and puts you and your son first 2 some one who is financially secure,3. some one who treats your son with love and respect 4. Etc 5, etc. This list is something you you chose..you stuck to it...do not compromise and you will have some strong foundations to build your relationship. One word of advice...if the guy you are with now loved or respected you he would not damage your son by calling him names...thats abuse and as his mother you need to get your son as far away from that man as possible. Good luck.
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (23 July 2013):
 Probably because you don't choose them right.
Never say never, maybe the next will treat you right, and I hope it's going to be soon if so you wish.
But in the meantime, what about learning to treat yourself right ?
You are not treating ypurself right if you hang nails and teeth to a man that only shows you disrespect and indifference. Most of all, you are not treating yourself right, in fact you are treating yourself very badly , if you cling to a man who's mistreating and vervally abusing your child !
If you cling to that, you are insulting yourself. You are telling yourself : You are such a loser that no man will treat you as anything but crap, so you've got to stay because , well, you ARE crap.
I know you have the " ..but I love him " excuse ready at hand, but it's just that that is troubling. If for loving a man you have to deprive YOURSELF of love, to the point of accepting bad treatment, name calling, etc.... then it's time to step back, be single for a while and rethink your whole concept of love and your expectations in life and relationships.
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