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writes:Hi I know this is a really common problem but this goes so much further. This may be long but I would really appreciate some answers :-).I'm in love with my art teacher, she's the same sex as me!!! I'm only 14 though but I look and act so much older and I'm SURE she's a lesbian. I don't know if I'm completley wrong?! Does anybody know how I could tell if she is DEFINITLEY a lesbian! She's not exactly friendly either however she's lovely to me I always find her looking at me and when I look she always either looks away quickly or smiles then looks away. Whenever I need help with my work she always comes over leans over me or places her arm on my back but sometimes she can be horrible to me.. I just don't get it. I KNOW I will get lots of criticising answers but there's no point because I'm not going to try anything stupid and I KNOW it's 'wrong' to love a teacher but to be honest we can't help who we fall in love with and I'm NOT against it just so many people are! I only wanna know how I could flirt back subtly and how I can find out she's definitely a lesbian... as weird as that may sound :P please help? xx
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reader, loloutloudagain  +, writes (24 May 2009):
 she may be but youll never know untill you ask her
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reader, damexikan  +, writes (24 January 2009):
I am too in LOVE with my teacher. Well, not my teacher, she was my cross country coach for 2 years, i am 13 and i think she is 24. It will be her birthday feb. 15, and I got her a GOLD necklace and gave it to her jan. 16.. she loved it, she gave me a hugg, stared at me and you know how teachers can be, they will tell you that they are busy so you'll leave, but instead she gave me a hugg, said she loved it, and stared at me (flirting kind) I know i LOVE her!
I took 3 testes online, First test said MS. DIAZ LOVES YOU second test said YOU MEAN ALOT TO MS. DIAZ and third test said YOU WILL SEE EACHOTHER AGAIN (there are possibilities)
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I RECOMEND YOU TO TELL HER, MAYBE SHE'LL BE TAKEN BUT IF SHE FLIRTS WITH YOU, THERE ARE POSSIBILITIES, ASK HER FOR TIME CUZ YOU WANNA TALK TO HER.
STARE INTO HER EYES AND SMILE WHILE YOU ARE TELLING HER, IT'LL WORK ;)
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reader, Ask The Leprechaun +, writes (12 November 2008):
 I was (and still am) in the same position as you. I'm 16 and have had feelings for one of my teachers for nearly 4 years now. When I first realised I was attracted to her, it was nothing more than a crush, I got over it, but then as I got older I gave into the feelings of lust again, eventually falling in love killed any hopes of getting over it again. The past couple of years have been really hard but they've been the best years of my life because of it.
SO MY ADVICE to you is, first to try, as hard a s you can to get over it, it may take months but try to distract yourself. BUT, if that doesn't work, and you feel the feelings getting stronger, and lust turns to love, please put your teacher first and don't just openly flirt with her. If you have to flirt with her, do it descretly and lightly.
The best thing you can do (what I did) is get to know the teacher on a personal level, try to befriend her. gain her trust. You're 14, you know that if anything happens between the 2 of you she'll be imprisoned, fired and registered as a paedo. If you gain her trust now, TRUST ME, this lays the foundations, she'll 1. be far more likely to flirt with you or start a relationship once you are 16, 2. She'll start off breaking little rules for you, in a couple of years maybe she'll break one very strict rule for you. 3. you'll probably find out if she's a lesbian or not if you get to know her better. It helps if you're good at the subject, aaswell.
If you can't get over it now, I warn you, it will be incredibly hard to resist that urge for 2 years, but you have to, if you really care. A couple of weeks ago, I turned 16, AND BELIEVE ME, my teacher is behaving VERY differently towards me.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 November 2008): I've so been in the same situation.
The bad part is, even if she were gay, even if she were into you, she'd lose her job if she did anything with you. If you really cared about her, and not just about your lust, if it were love, you'd wait to tell her in a few years. After you've left school. Doing anything about it now puts unfair pressure on her.
I fell for my teacher, and we're still friends ten years on, but my adivce to you is to get over it, right now while you still can. I'm ten years on from you, and I'm still tortured by it. Don't let yourself slip further in love. There is no chance of true happiness here.
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reader, .DRAMA-QU33N. +, writes (6 November 2008):
.DRAMA-QU33N. is verified as being by the original poster of the question lol thanks but yeah shes either single or has a woman partner shes a 'miss' not 'mrs'
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reader, TasteofIndia +, writes (6 November 2008):
 Well, I think instead of finding out and pursuing her, you should back off because she's a teacher and could get in real trouble for cavorting with a 14 year old (no matter how mature you look and act, you age is still your age). I'm not saying you should ditch the fantasy of your art teacher - hold on to that... but you should ditch the active pursuing.
For now, try to be friends with her, ask if you can see any of her pieces and try to get to know her as a person rather than as a teacher. You'll probably find out by the time you're out of school whether or not she's a lesbian and then you can actually do something about it!! Not until you're out of school, though. I did think that asking her husbands name was a clever idea, but she may just say she's single and not really give you an idea of her orientation.
Maybe ask her if she knows any good GBLT groups?
Good luck, my pet!
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