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writes:OK. This might sound comparatively trivial in light of some other posts, and perhaps a bit of a cliche as well.Anyway.There's a guy in a shop in my town. He's very attractive, has a great smile... you know the thing. I've been in there several times, but it's a small store (in a small English town), and there are only so many more visits I can make before I start to look a bit odd.In dream land, I'd like to ask him if he'd like to go for a drink. In reality, is there any way of doing this. I mean, there's no real way of knowing if he's gay without broaching the subject one way or another. I'm not the most confident guy either which is tricky.oh dear oh dear oh dearThanks x Reply to this Question
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reader, Biffo  +, writes (1 September 2012):
I really get a sense of who you are from your writing style and I must say you sound a lovely guy.
Anyway let me just say, that it is difficult for some people to start conversations. I'm older than you and I STILL have problems. I keep my eyes on the floor whenever I see people I fancy and don't utter a word. Have no problem talking to and looking in the eye of people I don't fancy. Anyway back to you.
I have thought of a good opening line for you. It needs to sound casual and not rehearsed. "I'm looking for a shirt. Don't know what kind though. Possibly something like the one you're wearing. That looks really good. Did you buy that here?" - now you are talking to him and he's showing you shirts - "I like this one. But it's a bit expensive. Do you get staff discount? Actually, thinking about it I really like the trousers you are wearing. What size are they? Did you get them here? (laughing) Perhaps I can just buy all the clothes you are wearing to save time." Now you are almost best friends and you will now know at this point if he is interested in you. No need to ask if he's gay, you'll be able to tell. I have a good feeling for you. Fingers crossed.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 July 2012): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for the advice. I might go into town tomorrow and see what happens. God knows how I'll start a conversation with him, or look like I'm in there for the clothes and not him.
Sigh
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 July 2012): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for the advice!!
I'm going into town tomorrow. If I muster some courage I'll go in and try and get some conversation going. God knows how, but I'll try.
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reader, AbigailBradbury +, writes (9 July 2012):
 You say you're not confident but darling, you will only gain confidence by experiences. Bite the bullet. Talk to him. I'm not saying jump in straight away and ask him out but start talking and ask about his life etc. Just make friendly conversation. If you are a good judge of body language you may be able to read if he likes you or not. Good luck, and if it turns out he isn't gay do not feel stupid or ashamed. Don't have regrets in life. You'll never learn unless you make mistakes xx
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