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writes:I am a 53 year old man and I have lost my ability to have sex because I suffer from diabetes. I can just can ejaculate but my penis is not hard enough to sustain sexual relations with my wife.I feel guilty myself. My wife is so good, How can I tell her?I can never tell her of my inability.
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reader, Mistresskiki  +, writes (21 July 2014):
Tell her and make the best out of a bad situation. DO NOT simply let things slide because, without explanations, she will assume you have lost all sexual interest in here (and therein lies a whole new world of pain). Be honest, and find ways to pleasure her without having to rely on your penis.
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (21 July 2014):
 I am sure she has noticed the lack of sex.
There are drugs that you can get that will help your erection. This is not your fault as you have an illness that affects your blood flow and supply and it's normal.
There are ways to make love to your wife without putting your penis in her vagina.... if you are ok with being oral with her, I'd go that route and TALK TO HER about it...
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reader, llifton +, writes (21 July 2014):
 And what I mean by that is by oral sex, or using a vibrator, or using your hand, etc. Get creative.
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reader, llifton +, writes (21 July 2014):
Well you realistically have no choice but to tell her. If you don't, she will assume it means something even worse - that you don't WANT to have sex with her. To a woman, that is a terrible thought.
Just because you can't have the physical act of penetrative sex does NOT mean that you can't still please your wife. Don't ever forget that. You don't need your penis to satisfy her. You can still have intimate closeness without full on sex. I think as long as you still make a point to please your wife in other ways, it won't be as bad as you think.
Good luck.
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