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writes: Ok I feel like if my boyfriend is not happy all the time when he is with me, that I have failed. I always want to entertain him, but I cant all of the time..I feel boring. What do I do? Reply to this Question
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reader, Bev Conolly  +, writes (30 July 2006):
 First you need to examine why you think you have to sing, juggle plates and tap-dance on top of a barrel to keep your boyfriend's attention.
You seem to be approaching the idea of dating as if being a pleasant person who's company is enjoyed isn't enough. But that's *all* that dating is. If your date doesn't find that being with you, and doing something you both like, is enough "entertainment", then there's nothing there between you.
What you have is a little bit of a self-esteem problem. You think that being yourself isn't good enough, but I'm sorry; it has to be good enough. And you need to have enough self confidence to remember that your boyfriend doesn't have to make you "pay" for the pleasure of his company. Either he wants you to be with him because he likes you as-is, or he isn't your boyfriend.
Believe in your own self-worth, and this will no longer be a problem. And you'll be a hell of a lot better rested!
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