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writes:I can't trust my boyfriend with oral sex anymore.He went down on me a few times in the beginning of our relationship, and I enjoyed it. However, some of the first times he did it, he made a face like he really hated the taste. Another time, he told me he "couldn't get the smell to go away, even after washing his hands." Then, after going down on me once, he said I smelled. I was always self conscious about that, so I just rolled over and cried.So, ever since I've only let him go down on me once or twice. It's been at least 6 months since the last time I let him, but I can't relax anymore and enjoy it. I just don't like it anymore. I'm afraid he totally ruined the experience for me. The thought of it now repulses me.I've always made sure that I was clean down there when we were hanging out, and we're both each other's firsts and STD-free. So I'm sure while it's just natural girl scent, I can't stand setting myself up for another hurtful comment and can't enjoy myself because of it. I won't even let him touch me down there anymore. Advice on how to get over it and relax?
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reader, love2godown +, writes (18 April 2010):
 Hi,
I find that a Woman’s vagina is one of the most beautiful part of her body. I love the sight up close and personal. I love the smell it drives me wild. Every part is erotic the lips to see and feel, the clit to touch and lick and watch it respond and enlarge. To watch and see how the vagina responds and releases it own fluid. This is such a turn on to see feel and taste. To feel inside of a Woman and her wetness finding her G Spot. All of this is the beauty of a Women and I love to worship her vagina in every way I can.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 April 2010): You want a ladies opinion? Here it is. The guy is an a-hole! Wich most youngs ones are. It has nothing to do with his sexual experience, it's all about his manners and by the sounds of it he has none. Don't try and make your self "cleaner" or "smell" better, you are who you are. You say your a clean person, than believe you are. Even if you were not, it doesn't excuse his behavior. If he doesn't like doing it than that's ok, but he needs to have a little more tact. Tell him, when you said those things it hurt my feelings and made me uncomfortable. He will respond one of two ways. He will say he is sorry and he will make it up to you, or he won't. If he does great your both happy, if he doesn't I suggest moving on to better things that will make you happy. There are going to be plenty of guys out there to make you feel like crap about yourself, your job is to try and stay away from them.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 April 2010): It does sound like inexperience as MM suggests. Firstly he sounded surprized that a womans vaginal scent can remain even after washing. Secondly he didn't have the good sense not to talk about it the way that he did.
Unlike DoubleM though I love the scent and moreso when it hasn't been recently freshened up. Every guy is different though, some guys never like it but they'll still give head.
This is about your pleasure so I disagree with anon that it's his job to make you secure about it especially as it has been 6 months. He might not like the taste or smell but he probably does like giving it because it gets you off.
You really have nothing to feel insecure about because it's a natural scent and frankly it's just a matter of taste. So it shouldn't matter whether he likes the taste or smell as long as he's willing to do it to give you pleasure. You don't smell bad down there because as you said you are clean and disease free, so you should talk to him about it ask him how he feels about giving it.
I doubt very much he finds it as repulsive as you think he does. It's a very special feeling making your loved one orgasm and giving head is a great way to selflessly do that.
The guys that I know that are repulsed by the scent and/or taste still enjoy giving it by the way for the reasons I stated above. You need to talk to him at length about this.
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reader, Brunel  +, writes (8 April 2010):
Time to move on Miss. He just has not got a clue he is a complete 'smuck'. There is nothing more natural than what you were doing, it is so long since I did anything like that?
Speak up for yourself you are his equal if not superior, as most women are emotionally so much stronger.
What is important is what you want? Sod him!
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reader, DoubleM +, writes (8 April 2010):
 Well, in my opinion, his reaction was probably just due to his inexperience. You are correct that women have a scent, and taste, that is a little unusual to a young man the first few experiences. It's a bit hard to describe, but can range from musty to slightly pungent to sweet. And it can be somewhat different at different times, probably due to diet and cycles. Two possibly descriptive comparisons to taste are: sour cream or plain yogurt, for lack of a better analogy.
Understand that I'm no longer a young man, and I've buried my face between many lady's thighs over the decades. As long as she has recently freshened up, a woman's privates are totally delightful to me, but a young, inexperienced fellow is likely to find the taste and aroma fairly surprising only because it's something new to his experience.
As a young woman, you should be assured that an experienced man who enjoys providing this pleasure for you will have no problem at all. It will be exquisite for both, providing you just bathe normally and stay balanced. Do not douche, use a neutral-balance soap if any at all, and include fruits or fruit juices in your diet.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 April 2010): Its his job to make you more secure about it. It seems to be a pretty common insecurity with women. He sounds pretty immature and he may never have gone down on a girl before you. It was a stupid of him to make faces and say that you smell... if you tried doing that to him after going down on him one time, he won't like it one bit. He's now going to have to fight an uphill battle to make you feel more secure about down there.
I know its probably useless saying it, but you shouldn't take it personally. Your boyfriend was being a sissy and said some stupid things. Let him know what he did and why you feel insecure now. Hopefully he'll get some idea of what/what not to do from now on and that its really in his best interests to make you feel better.
Interested to see what the ladies opinions are on this...
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