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writes:Hey people, I know my story is kinda weird but i really really need help.so i am not origenally from the US but i live here.Anyways, i had a girl friend back home for almost 2 years, she is from a very very (traditional) family. In a day she called me and told me that her family arranged a husband for her. of course i was shocked and by the time that she was "supposed to" get engaged, etc i had to start moving on and i kinda did... 9 hours before she gets married i called her the last time and i said bye.... i slept, then i woke up and found messages and calls from her, i was surprised??? she's supposed to be married by now. So i called her and she was talking (normally) like nothing happened, so i asked what the hell?? she said (my dad said no to the other family in the last second) and now am again (yours), she thought i would be happy but i couldn't, I already started to move on. That call was 10 days ago and since that day we didn't talk on the phone, but we are BBMing each other (Black Berry Msngr).. I dont have the same feelings for her, I moved on, but now shes back. I don't want to hurt her and I dont wanna lie at her because I never did and I want to end the relationship so no one can get hurt. but... I have no ideas how to. What should I do? Please help me, the sooner the better. Thank you.
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reader, lacrymosa_652  +, writes (18 November 2010):
 Just gently tell her that you don't think you both should be together anymore. Perhaps say that it is because her parents may soon want to marry her off again, and you both will be back in the place you were at before. Say that you'd accepted that you weren't going to be with her anymore after she said she was going to get married, and you don't want to go back and forth.
Just be honest. Don't stay with her if you don't really want to be in a relationship with her.. it's not going to do either of you any favours. She may be hurt and upset, but she'll have to accept it. Break ups are never easy, but once you've done it, the weight will be off your shoulders. Good luck.
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