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writes:My husband and I don't live together because we don't have jobs. I live with my mother and she is supporting me financially for the moment. She will also be getting a house for my bf and us to live in as well. I see my bf once a month, we live an hr away from each other. The issue is that he thinks that he should name the child because it's a boy. I don't think that, I think we should both come up with a name together. But he is so stubborn with a name we talked about and only wants to consider that one. Every name I give him he says NO.I told him that I did like that name but it wasn't definite. That we were deciding, well he told his whole family that this name was what we were going to name our child, when it isn't like this. How in the heck would I have decided a name it if I didn't even know it was going to be a boy. I just found out 2 weeks ago that the baby will be a boy.How can I get us to come up with a baby boy's name together. Thanks! Reply to this Question
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reader, HisGirl0516 +, writes (11 February 2017):
I think you have more things to worry about..like getting a job, not letting your mom support you and your bf. With all the respect in the world, don't worry about the baby name, worry about the financial problems you guys will have once the baby arrives.
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reader, Aunty BimBim  +, writes (9 February 2017):
 Honeypie is correct, he has no more right to name the child than the man on the moon, regardless of gender. I like her idea of how to choose a name you both like .... that being said, is the father of the baby your husband or boyfriend? I ask this because first sentence you refer to him as husband and then you mention a BF. In MY opinion if you are not married all rights relating to the child, INCLUDING family or surname are yours ... if the mother of his child is not good enough to marry (it doesn't have to be an elaborate wedding just a ceremony) then the child is not good enough to take his name. Its a personal peeve of mine ....
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 February 2017): I wouldn't be surprised if your husband wants to name the kid after him as a testament to his ego and virility.
Given that he is currently dependent on his mother-in-law to support you and provide a home for your child, I respectfully suggest that he has priorities far greater than asserting his self-granted authority to name a baby because of its gender.
"he thinks that he should name the child because it's a boy."
If he's wants to behave like a caveman then tell him you think he should get a job and provide for his family because he's a man.
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reader, Andie's Thoughts  +, writes (8 February 2017):
 Honestly, this is the least of your worries. Please focus on getting jobs and come up with baby names closer to or after the birth.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (8 February 2017):
 Without first born we BOTH wrote down 10 names each and swapped lists.
I nixed all the names on his I didn't like, he nixed the ones on mine He didn't like. First time I nixed ALL 10 of his and he nixed 8 of mine. In the end, we came up with 2 names and that is our oldest name and middle name. The names go well together and that is why we chose to use BOTH.
He has NO more "right" to name the child than you have. Even if he claim to have family traditions, YOU as the mother have just as much of a say.
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