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writes:Hey, i need help, im a 15 year old girl with social phobia, generalized anxiety disorder and Avoidant Personaltiy Disorder (SP, GAD and AvPD).The thing is non of my friends understand, they just think im being rude when i don't go to sleepovers or parties, canceling at last minute. The truth is i want to go and i really try but i physically cant do it.it was really bad last week, i went away to Paris on a french exchange and in any social situation whatsoever i just couldn't handle it, i just sat in a corner and read listening to my mp4 player. but then on the Saturday night i went to a party and it was all too much for me. for the first 2 hours i just sat in the corner on a chair, arms and legs crossed, not moving an inch unless someone came to try to get me to dance, but i physically couldn't.eventually, a guy in the year below came over and started talking to me and i eventually loosened up and i let him take me to another, quieter room to get a drink, but i had to walk through the dance floor to get to it. in the room, i started hyperventilating and shaking really bad, then i went really dizzy, was nearly sick and then collapsed.the rest of the evening i was sat in the quieter room shaking and feeling dizzy. it got worse when people stopped coming to check i was ok and i had another attack later on, but that time i was on my own at first. i left shortly after.i have generally been the same at any party i ever go to, but not normally as bad as that was.but, what im asking is how can i get my friends to understand?i am meant to go to a sleepover tonight. my stuff is packed and ready but i just cant take myself to go. the thought of it sends my head spinning even though ther is now only 2 people going?a few weeks ago i was fine with these people but now i cant face it, but iwant to see them, cos i haven't seen them for ages,i dunno what to do, i want them to understand and ive tried explaining but they don't understand. i really want to go to partys and stuff and i do try but i just physically cant. how can i help them understand me and how can i get better?
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reader, cloudysunshine +, writes (6 April 2009):
Maybe you could show your closest friends a website or leaflet to help explain things? Stuff like this can be hard for teenagers to understand but in time, with maturity they'll realise it's part of you and hopefully accept you for who you are, if they don't then they're not the right kind of friends, hope everything works out for you, I've developed anxiety recently and it's the worst thing I've experienced
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