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writes: When I first meet a guy, I act normal and am fine. But when I start to notice that he likes me or I begin to like him, I turn into this nervous spaz. I feel like some lovesick teenager, even though I am in my 20's. I become this tongue-tied idiot! It's just so embarrassing. I start to get insecure and question myself and become really paranoid. (ie: "Is my hair okay?" "Do I look okay?" etc.) I'm just worried that because of this issue, I'll stay single forever. I wish I were more confident and flirty but I turn into this big mess. How can I ease my nerves so that I feel more comfortable around guys?
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (20 January 2010):
You need to look back over your life and find out why you are so underconfident with yourself. How were your teenage years for you? Were you bullied or did you have a tough home life or anything like that? You won't stay single forever. A guy will come into your life. But before anything, you need to find out why you're so nervous so you can build your confidence up a bit more.
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reader, Not My Name  +, writes (20 January 2010):
 If you notice a guy is attracted to you, then he likes you just the way you are, so don't try to change and become all flirty and falsely over confident - that is not what attracted him in the first place. Try to relax and be yourself coz being yourself has got to be more comfortable than trying to pretend you are something you are not.
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