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writes:I just recently passed a week end with a groupe of friends on holiday and in my groupe of friend there is one guy that I have dated in the past and now we are kind of friends with benefits when the ocasions gives. We have slep together in this week end and now I feel realy guilty and I kind of regret doing this. We had done this before and I had not felt guilty about it but this time it was diffrent.I kind of have a past with alot of guys when I was in high school, I didn't realy understand the whole concept of sex and the consiquiences witch led me to sleeping with more then my share of guys. And well I learned my lesson of destroying my rebutation and stoped all of that. But now that I have had sex with this friend I feel dirty and realy bad about doing this, letting the respect I had for myself get taken away once again. And I know for a fact that this has kind of ruined the friendship we had and now I don't know how to get it back and for him to respect me again and not think of me as just another girl.I realy want you guys to help out with your opinions on this. Thank you. :)ZebraLove.
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reader, zebralove +, writes (16 June 2011):
zebralove is verified as being by the original poster of the question Thanks, wow I feel realy badly because I think you right. The thing that bothers me is that we were childhood friends and now its all gone because of a stupid thing like this..
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 June 2011): If you want respect then find another guy. There's no getting respect back from this one.
Once you have sex with a guy without commitment then his respect for you will never again go any higher than that. (If you withdraw the sex then you're even less in his eyes. You still aren't respectable but now you aren't non-respectably fun either.)
Sorry to be so blunt but this is how guys feel about these things.
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reader, zebralove +, writes (14 June 2011):
zebralove is verified as being by the original poster of the questionYeah I understand that now. I have been feeling guilty ever since and I realy don't want to do this again. It just felt normal at the time because that what would happen every time we would hang out. But I regret doing this and will not do it again.
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reader, tennisstar88  +, writes (13 June 2011):
 You need to stop being occasional FWBs then. End that for good then he'll see you as a girl who can take self control and not just a convenient lay.
Right now it's too recent, it's going to take some time to earn his respect.
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reader, zebralove +, writes (13 June 2011):
zebralove is verified as being by the original poster of the questionOh, since that time yes I have slep with a few others but I was in a relationship with these men. And I mean I know that one night stands exist and its not the end of the world. But I just dont know how to get back on a good friendship term with him.
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reader, Welsh Uncle Dave  +, writes (13 June 2011):
It sounds like from what you have said that this is the first time you slept with someone since you stopped sleeping around.
It probably brought back all the memories of what you used to be like, but you cant let that affect you.
You don't sleep around anymore and life goes on which includes having a sex life, so dont beat yourself up about it.
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