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writes: I love my boyfriend to bits and he treats me like a princess but i cant help but get annoyed with his lack of ambition. So far in his life everything has fallen into his lap and this is what he thinks will happen now. I am saving like mad for a mortgage deposit and he spends his money on rubbish. I would love to move in with him but am determined not to give it to him on a plate. How can i give him a kick up the bum? I have told him bluntly but he seems to believe it will sort itself out.
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reader, Country Woman  +, writes (6 May 2006):
 I think at the end of the day if your b/f can't be bothered to save for a mortgage then he is still not growing up.
How old are you both?
If you are both still young then he is wanting to enjoy life and not thinking in the same way that you are.
Keep saving but still enjoy life.
I think there is a total lack of communication here on what you both want out of life, tell him that there is no way that you would get a joint mortgage with him unless he matches the amount that you put up for a deposit. That is if he wants to get a house together with you. Has he said he does want to do this and when?
I think the fact that you are saying about not giving it to him on a plate is right.
How long have you been together?
Keep your little nest egg for you right now and just see it grow as this guy may not want to have the whole settled down routine and that is something you may have to accept.
Keep me posted eh!!
BFN
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