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writes:So please let me set the sence-My Gfs mother died 2 years ago, in her sleep, which obviously mortifiyed her! than 2 weeks later her than current BF hung himself!fast forward to today! the other night she was telling me what a terrible day she had had having to visit the hospital with work and visiting the morgue brought back bad memories! Been a kind of sympathetic person, i treid to comfort her and relate to the subect with one of my relatives whom was close to me, when she violent outbusrt- " you dont know what ive been through, you cant compare, i cant stand been in the same room as someone whom doenst understand me!" leading up to this outburst she has been i'll, very tired and seemed emontional distant from me! just after i was relegted to the spareroom, i recived a text saying, going for a swim, itll calm me down, i need space when im like this, dont worry! what in blazers shud i do?
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reader, marie jane renshaw +, writes (23 February 2010):
 awwww thats really sad news and im sorry 2 hear it but maybe u shouldnt tak about ur losses as it will trigger her emotions even more, just give her hugs and b there 4 her 2 fall back on,let her have some space like when she goes swimming,maybe go with her 2 see a councilor 4 extra help as u cant do it on ur own
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (23 February 2010):
A bit of a nightmare, I have to say. But give her the space she needs and she'll come back. The problem was the comparison. Men who are hurt can relate to others through comparing stories. Women don't do that. They get over things by talking about their story. So in the future, don't compare, just sit silent, hug her and listen to her. She just needs you to listen and understand that to her no one on this planet has been through worse. All you need to do is listen.
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