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writes:I have been with my bf for almost a year now. I love him very much, and I am scared that this relationship is falling apart from his recent depression. We have had wonderful moments together. However, things have not always been that great due to the fact that he has panic disorder caused by agorophobia. He has been on anti-depressant for over 5 years now. His anti-depressants have caused him to have low sex drive and blocking his emotions most of the time causing him to be confused with his past and present relationships. In the past year, he has twice admitted to me that he was confused whether he really loved me. I had left him on both occasions, since all this was very new to me. He would then beg me to get back with him and reassured me that his pills were creating this feeling of being confused and deep down inside he knew that he loved me. Two weeks ago, my bf had a panic attack. He told me that it took a great toll on him and would take a week or so for him to recuperated. During that week after his panic attack, he started being somewhat distant. My conclusion was that he was down and this would only be temporary. Now it has been two weeks since the panic attack. He has cut off all communication with me, and is telling me that he is very confused about his feelings and about this relationship. He is telling me that he is not sure if he has ever loved me and needs his space and time to sort out everything. He has been isolating himself in his home, and only leaves to go to work, does not reply to my phone calls, emails, etc. I have finally decided to cut of the communication myself for another week or two until he sorts out his problems. I am not sure if he is dealing with depression, since I have read that depression completely cuts of your sex drive, and as he has mentioned to me last week that his sex drive was at 0. And also the fact that he has distanced himself from me, and isolated himself. I have never been through depression to know how this feels like. I am very new to all of this. It has been very difficult for me to deal with all of this, especially that I am a very emotional person, and take things to heart. We had plans to get married and get engaged by next summer and move out together. And on several occations, during intercourse, he wanted us to take a risk and for me to get pregnant. (Luckily or unluckily) I did not get pregnant even though we tried. I am hopeless, but love him so much, and dont know what to do anymore. Does anyone have any advice about depression or how to deal with someone who is on anti-depressants? I want him to get off the drugs, but the side effects are terrible, worse than being depressed.
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reader, Bambi09 +, writes (22 July 2008):
Bambi09 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks (ask oldsister). What do you mean, he should take Xanax when he gets into a panic attack? But all of these problems my bf and I are facing is due to his pills. He has low sex drive, and emotionally numb caused by Paxil, thus making him always confused when in a relationship. I was actually trying to convince him to get off the meds. Unless he gets off the meds and keep Xanax with him for emergencies? Is this what you are recommending?
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reader, Bambi09 +, writes (22 July 2008):
Bambi09 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for the reply (ask oldsister)! Yes you are absolutely right about the fact that he has to change is lifestyle around. That is what he has been doing since he has met me. I told him I would leave him if he wouldnt change his habits (sleeping, watching tv, being couch patatoe). He finally turned around his life after I gave him a big speech. He has lost his sister from a brain tumor 8 years ago, and she was always doing everything to enjoy her life to the fullest. I told him that his sister would be ashamed of him seeing him like this. So he did change his life around. We started biking every weekend, cut off completely all processed foods, fast foods, sweets, etc. He started cleaning up his act and started feeling great about himself. But his depression hit him after he got his panic attack 2 weeks ago. And he hasn't been himself since. He has not tried calling me once or does not even write a line or two in an email. It breaks my heart.
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reader, Bambi09 +, writes (22 July 2008):
Bambi09 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you for the answers. I have done alot of research on anti-depressants, unfortunatly, this is not the solution for his problem. I have never heard of kinesiology though. I will do further research on that. Thanks alot!
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 July 2008): This is a tough situation and I really feel for you. I want to suggest an alternative for your boyfriend... its called Kinesiology! It is a 100% natural treatment and I am sure that you will be able to find a kinesiologist near you. It is an emotional healing that will help him to cope with what has caused the depression and you can also go to help you gain strength to support him. I used to have sever anxiety attacks some years back and I am only 29! I tried everything and the only thing that got rid of it was kinesiology. Please look into it? It may help and you have nothing to lose and since it is a natural method, it cannot hurt you at all! Good luck and stay strong xx
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