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writes:Ok, I really need as many help and as much advice as I can possibly get. I really love the person that I'm with right now and I would do anything or at least try my best to work out any problems a relationship sometimes have. My bf and I work together, live together and see each other day and night and I totally don't mind it at all, same goes for him. It's been 2 years now and I am always having a really bad temper or if I feel attacked in any way I also attack back but worse... I'm a lot more verbal than physical, I just say the most hurtful things and can never take them back. It's just when I'm so angry, I will do everything in my power to bite his head off (expression). I need help as to what I should do to control this or he IS going to leave me because he can't take it any more, it's too much for him and now time is ticking because he said he can only do this a few more times or it's really over, even though as much as we love each other it's not going to work out for him as he does not want this stress in his life. What should I do before it's to late? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 March 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for the great advise everyone!!! I went to the bookstore yesterday got a really good book and I'm already learning quite a lot! I'm really excited to change and be a more reasonable person rather than be angry and live a stressful life. It's not the path I want to go so I appreciate to those who have helped me and answered my questions. Means a lot!
Thanks guys!
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 March 2009): There are many good books in the library about controlling anger. It's not always easy but make the effort sincerely and show him you want to be better, for both of you.
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reader, wonderingcat  +, writes (3 March 2009):
 Are you normally bad tempered to everybody or mostly just to your boyfriend? If it is jut to your boyfriend, there may actually an underlying issue that manifested itself (in you) as "anger". If it is to everybody, your "problem" could be both to do with your psyche as well as simply physiological.
In addition to the anger management class as suggested by Jessica, may I suggest that you check for hormonal imbalance at the nearest clinic/hospital? The thyroid gland can play havoc in one's body when not functioning as it should be. If it is a medical condition, you will immediately see the result when they give you the proper medication.
It takes a lot to admit that you have a problem with your temper, so I am sure your b/f is already recognizing how special you are.
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reader, jessica04 +, writes (3 March 2009):
 If you can enroll in anger management classes to show him you are serious about changing, he will be more inclined to stay around longer.
In the meantime, if it is possible when the situation arises, try to leave and cool down for a few minutes. Go over your thoughts and run through your head the consequences of your negative actions.
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