New here? Register in under one minute   Already a member? Login245057 questions, 1084625 answers  

  DearCupid.ORG relationship advice
  Got a relationship, dating, love or sex question? Ask for help!Search
 New Questions Answers . Most Discussed Viewed . Unanswered . Followups . Forums . Top agony aunts . About Us .  Articles  . Sitemap

How can I cope with my boyfriend going to prison?

Tagged as: Breaking up, Long distance<< Previous question   Next question >>
Question - (2 February 2009) 5 Answers - (Newest, 18 February 2009)
A female United Kingdom age 41-50, anonymous writes:

my boyfriends going away to prison for 7 months and i don't know how im gonna cope. i had to wait for my last boyfriend for a year and a half and i don't know if i could do it again? i don't want him to go but i can't do anything about it? how am i really going to cope??

<-- Rate this Question

Reply to this Question


Share

Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question!

A female reader, anonymous, writes (18 February 2009):

my boyfriend just got sentenced to 4 years and im freakin out!!! but u know what, i think if u truly love ur man and is down for him than u can deal with it...my best advice is to hold him doen but still do you!!he s the one locked up not you!!!so have fun and enjoy ur life. dont stress about the situation and before you know it , it ll be 7 months later. seriously 7 months isnt that much ,especially if he s worth the wait. good luck

<-- Rate this answer

A female reader, anonymous, writes (2 February 2009):

Hi

You will cope fine without him ( yes you will) I have been where you are when i was very young. I look back now and think WHAT a waste of our then youth. Smelly waiting rooms, bad atmosphere and bad language, filthy looks, paranoia, body searches, no kissing or touching, threats( and that's just in the waiting rooms.... This is no way for a young lady to spend her life WAITING for her man. Please don't think i am been cruel to you or him, because i am not.

You may well know where YOU ARE GOING IN LIFE...but believe me if you stay on this path, you wont be going where you think, because his bad reputation ( UNLESS HE STOPS) will effect you, even down to work and responsible positions....any thing goes wrong you will be prime suspect, and shopping if he is a thief. People will think your the same even when you are not. You will always have ASSOSIATION with criminals and you will be observed by the police etc.... I walked where you are walking and it STINKS.

promises to stop as they all do....( some do manage to stop ) but very few.. until they finally REALIZE they like their FREEDOM too late and they have wasted years and ABOVE ALL THE INNOCENT ONE WAITING, THEIR LIFE GOES ON HOLD. The SECOND 8month stint my boyfriend did in prison was enough for me...yeah as all love sick young girls do i said i would wait, but I decided to enjoy MY LIFE and GET out and LIVE ...stuff waiting! he CHOSE HIS PATH.....PRISON.

I chose mine FREEDOM.

You CHOOSE YOURS!

via con dios.

Good luck.

<-- Rate this answer

...............................   

A male reader, ArmyMedic United Kingdom +, writes (2 February 2009):

ArmyMedic agony auntI agree with kellyxxx, I think you should probably find some new places to hang out and find a different type of guy. But can I suggest probably not soldiers, sailors or airmen as we tend to spend a lot of time away too.

Good luck

<-- Rate this answer

...............................   

A reader, anonymous, writes (2 February 2009):

This is verified as being by the original poster of the question

whe i meet them i don't exect them to go prison do i? and by the time they've gone we're too deep in te reationship to back out. i know where i want to go in life and what i want to ACHIEVE..with or without a boyfriend nothings going to change that!!

any useful answers to my crisis??

x

<-- Rate this answer

...............................   

A female reader, kellyxxx United Kingdom +, writes (2 February 2009):

kellyxxx agony auntyou seem to have a little habit of picking boys who are prison bound. choose more carefully and have more respect for yourself! him going to prison will be good for you. use the time to pamper yourself and think about where you want to go in life! good luck.x

<-- Rate this answer

...............................   

Add your answer to the question "How can I cope with my boyfriend going to prison?"

Already have an account? Login first
Don't have an account? Register in under one minute and get your own agony aunt column - recommended!

All Content Copyright (C) DearCupid.ORG 2004-2008 - we actively monitor for copyright theft

0.0312673000007635!