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writes:help sum1 plz i dont know what to do i wrote to you the other day about my partner cheating on me with who was ment to be his ex but wasnt and theyve been together for 7 years never broke up yet he was seeing me at the same time and living together it feels so right like were ment to be i love him so much we have been through so much together so i took him back after about 2 weeks he ashores me he loves me and that hes not cheating but our relationship just isnt right i feel paranoid like deep down i feel like i know hes cheating still but i dont want to believe it and he doesnt always answer his fone which hes never done before im not seeing him much either its like hes trying to ignore me yet when i question him he comes up with excuses and says he loves me i dont know whether hes still cheating or its me being paranoid i really just want to tell him dont bother i dont care its over but i cant i love him to much he knows i love him too help plz do you think hes cheating and should i end it if its not the same anymore ???
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reader, cherrysundae19  +, writes (11 December 2008):
I wrote yesterday about a similar situation with myself. I know exactly how you feel. It's that uneasy feeling in the pit of your stomach that eats you alive because you don't know what to believe. If he is cheating on you with someone else the chances of him actually telling you the truth are slim. If you ask him and he straight up tells you that he is being 100% faithful then thats really all you can believe until you have some concrete evidence. The advise that I was given by my boss is to "investigate". I don't know how you feel about investigating, but I'm not really into going through someones phone, emails etc. I don't know how you can investigate without it crossing the "invading privacy stalker line". If he goes out on the weekend and you happen to find out on the down low where he might be going, like a bar or restaurant you and some friends can just happen to be at the same bar or restaurant as him and see who he is with and what he is up to. I feel like there is a line between being a "stalker girlfriend" to find out if he is cheating and deserving to know if he is because its not right. But if none of that sounds appealing to you then really you will never know what is really going on with him and you will have to make your decision based on your gut feeling. I think personally, because I am in the same situation you should end the relationship with him, that is what I am planning on doing myself. We are both beautiful woman who deserve the best out of life and deserve to be treated like a princess. The hardest part about ending it is thinking back throughout your relationship and thinking about all the good times you two have had together and then it makes you cry. I've realized that I can't think of the good things because it does not get me closer to healing, it makes it worse. I have to keep reminding myself constantly how much of an a** he is being and then I start to feel better about the desicion I am making. I'm sure you are feeling the same way. Good luck with the choice you make, please keep me updated.
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reader, firepink +, writes (9 December 2008):
Hi there
It seems one of those situation where, Because in a way you guys started the relationship in dishonesty, because he was seeing you whilst he was with someone, at the back of your mind you have no guarantee that the same isnt happening to you, and really your right, because they're are right and wrong ways to begin relationships, without hurting anyone. At the same time, some people can change and really have a connection. maybe you should distance your self from it alittle of stop thinking about it, and also the other maind thing is do you have any proof that he may be seeing someone else, or is it just a feeling?
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