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*keez
writes:Ive been with my bf for nearly 3 years. We broke up for 5 months about 3 months ago and he slept with another girl. I thought things would get better becuase he started to treat me better and tried to make up for what he did. Well I think I was proven wrong. Recently I felt our sex life has become boring. He isnt willing to try new positions, he doesnt find it sexy if I suggest to wear some nice underwear. He finds it weird and uncomfortable when I playfully put my breasts infront of his face. (I thought all guys like tht) And Im really not enjoying sex anymore. Last time we tried it which was yesterday, he couldnt get his penis in. I was completely dry and totally not in the mood for it. Thats never happened before. Also...he has never been the type of guy to flirt with other girls and etc and ive been grateful for that as im a very jealous type. Anyways...I felt things were wrong and from all the sudden change in attutude i felt suspicious and had a look on his phone. I found a few texts from a girl called Jo. They seemed innocent, but when I looked in his outbox his texts said stuff like 'How is my loveliest of lovlies' and 'Dnt go picking up men in ur car, even though u wont have trouoble with that' and messages like that. I was so upset I didnt really talk to him for the rest of the night and avoided sex. He keeps in contact with too many girls and ive become less trustworthy of him.When he had sex with the other girl he was also hanging out with me as friends at the time, flirting,hugging me and basically acting like we were dating and i always asked him if he had found someone else and he denied it. I told him I didnt mind if he had. I found out through a friend and was really hurt becuase he was playing around with me at the same time. Hes cheated on me with MEN in the past. Kep staring at his ex girlfriend and never stood up for me when his friends lied or were rude to me.How can i change things??xxxx
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reader, Skeez +, writes (11 December 2008):
Skeez is verified as being by the original poster of the question Everything is finally soughted out. He came to my door with flowers, but even though appreciating them lods didnt leave it without explanation so I told him how i felt. He felt as though he didnt do anthing wrong and wasnt flirting but he apologized and said he would never do it again. He even said I could look at his phone from now on, which i said i wouldnt do becuase I want things to get improved with trust and etc. I told him if anything like that happens again, I will walk.
So thaaaaaaank you so much for your help. Your a complete Star.
xxxxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 December 2008): Dear Poster
Thanks for the update.
I am happy that you are going to have a talk to him. I can understand that it might be a difficult time and not a time that you want to be alone and all hurting and emotional; but look at the positive side of things; if he is not worthy of your trust, respect and love it is better you celebrate your birthday without him; a new year in your life, more wiser and open to new opportunities. A good start for your next your of life; not to alloy him or anybody to not give you the love and respect you deserve.
Congratulations for your Birthday on Monday and my wish for you is that it will be a wonderful day and year ahead for you; filled with lots of fun and love. My you discover true happiness and experience lots of love.
Best wishes with your talk tonight and keep me posted.
Lots of smiles to you!
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reader, Skeez +, writes (10 December 2008):
Skeez is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for your advice. Ive confronted him about the texts and am awaiting him to come over this evening. and im going to talk things through with him. Its just a realy bad time for allthis to start coz i have my 18th bday on monday =/. dont really want to ruin things.
but thanks for your advice. I agree with what you say and will take it into consideration.
xxxxxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 December 2008): Dear Poster
This might not be what you want to hear, but the answer is very simple: DUMP HIM.
You might think you love him, but love is not enough to make a relationship work. Where is the mutual respect, not to mention, how can you trust him?
A relationship without trust and mutual respect; NO, get out and find somebody that will value and appreciate you and treat you with love and respect. You deserve better then this guy!
Best wishes and lots of smiles.
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