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writes:I'm 18, and I have to say I've been very good to my parents. I have never done drugs, I only drink when I'm with them so they can watch me and cut me off when I've had enough, I don't smoke, I did pretty good in school, I listen to them, I help out around the house... seems pretty decent to me. Thing is, I have a boyfriend whom lives almost eight hours away from me, and he's been driving up here every few weeks to come see me. I don't think it's fair to him to always have to come see me, so I thought I'd go see him for once. There's two things that I would like to do:1) Drive by myself down to his house and stay for a few days in early to mid-January. I'd be 19 by then. 2) He wants to go to South Padre Island for his birthday, which is in late January. He could come up to get me and we could split the cost of the trip and everything. My problem is, I know for a fact that my parents will flip if I even mention doing something like that. To me, the second option would be a little easier for them to swallow because they know my boyfriend and I wouldn't be driving alone. They've met him plenty of times and let me go out with him when he's in town without asking where I'll be going. I come back home when they tell me to, and I don't fight to get them to extend that time. I know I still live under their roof, but they want to treat me like an adult. They are practically trying to force me to go to school, they expect me to know how to handle certain situations when they always step in to handle it for me. They're not over protective, but I just want to get out and experience something new. I've never been out of town without at least one of my parents. How can I convince them to let me go? Could I call them every hour I'm on the road to let them know I'm alright and call them every night I'm there to let them know about my day?I'm a smart girl. I wouldn't do anything stupid while I'm there, I know that for sure.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 November 2010): I had a similar situation trying to move out of my house into an apartment with my best friend and boyfriend. I was 18 and I'm not 19 living on my own but the thing is it was a gradual process.
First they had to let me drive alone which started when I was 16 and that was only around the city. Then they had to start letting me go out at night around the time I was 17. Finally when I turned 18 and proved that they could trust me and that I would always be close to my phone they let me move out.
You have to understand it's hard for your parents, it's not that they don't trust you it's that the world is a scary place and the don't wanna loose their daughter.
Start off small and go from there.
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