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writes:Ok so ive just started dating this guy ive known him for 7 months i went 2 go visit him last weekend he lives 2 hrs away....now this is where it gets difficult. I do not have a car but my mom has let me used her car before, but what i need help on the most is trying to convince my mother 2 drive me out there so i can stay w/him 4 a couple weeks. I am starting school in the middle of april and i would like to spend as much time as i possibly can with him before i start school. He is willing 2 pay for the gas money....i need some advice and what i should say to try and convince my mom 2 drive me out there??? Please any answer would be great. Thanks
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reader, BettyBoup  +, writes (25 March 2010):
 I don't mean to be rude or cause offence, but I just want to present my opposing view to rhythmandblues2's advice.
I think that all long distance relationship do not work, is a sweeping generalisation. I have been in a LDR with my partner now for almost 2 years. I think it depends on the strength of your relationship. True love can overcome all obstacles, distance, time, age etc, if both parties want it to work. You do need to make time to see each other(I see my boyf every holiday I get/whenever I can). So I can understand your need to spend as much time with him as possible.
As for your age... Here in Britain, once you are over 16 you can legally be responsible for your self and your own actions. You are old enough to move out on your own. Certainly from 18, you are considered an adult(although at 18 you are often still very naive and thus need to be careful). I think at 18 you should do what you feel is right for you. If your mum is strongly oppossed, ...tough! She will have to let you go at some point, as you will fly the nest. She shouldn't be trying to control an adult, it's not right. But this might not be the case. She might just be busy and not have the time to spend driving you there. In which case, find a way to get yourself there.
Good luck :)
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reader, pinktopaz +, writes (24 March 2010):
If he has a car and is willing to pitch in for gas in the first place, ask him to come pick you up. If you two are both adults, I don't see why there isn't a reason why you two can't work it out. If you want to badly enough, there's always Greyhound or asking a friend...
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 March 2010): I think you would be better off concentrating on your school and realize that long distance relationships never work out. They are full of intensified emotions that are overblown and a result of unrequited feelings...not love.
All this intensity has you clinging to this guy, when clearly you both need to move on. You can't possibly build a relationship when you are that far apart. This is going to happen more than once in your young life because love and relationships are often a matter of timing.
What business do you have at the age of 18 spending two weeks living at your boyfriend's house? You don't and if I were your mother and paying for your livelihood and school I would refuse to drive you two hours to go stay with him much less give you my car...Nope, no way no how.
It is time to get a grip on reality here dear, this boyfriend was a fun few months out of your very young life. You will meet someone else just as cute and wonderful at school and you will actually get to see him. Chill out.
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reader, BettyBoup +, writes (24 March 2010):
I agree with Angzw. If you're mum is unwilling to drive you there, there are other means of transport. If your boyfriend has offered to pay gas, surely he will pay for a train or coach ticket? It will be less hassle for your mum. Why not just ask her? She might not mind, but if you're asking I assume she is unlikely to agree to it. In which case, get a bus/train/coach/hire car/taxi or whatever public transport is available to you.
Good luck :)
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reader, Angzw  +, writes (24 March 2010):
At over 18 you can surely catch the bus or the train. Call your local station for prices. Your boyfriend can fetch you from the bus terminus/ train station. If its 2 hours away, it should be less than $30 for a return ticket.
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