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writes:My boyfriend just informed yesterday that he was supposed to be moving to New Brunswick today, and I live in Toronto. He told me that he's moving to New Brunswick and that he's ending what we have because he believes it's not easy to keep a long distance relationship. We both really honestly love each other sooo much, we have a rare bond most teenagers don't have. I am 16 and he is 17. I just left a message to him that I would be able to visit him this summer, 2008, but I didn't get a response yet cause I just sent the message. We both really love each other and I feel why break up are love, if we love each other enough why not try hard enough to keep this going. I feel we can, I know we can, it's just whether he's willing to believe this will work. Help, now what do I do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 April 2008): That is a very hard question to answer, but I can say that what you are going through right now is a lot what i'm going through as well. I had a boyfriend at one point in time, about 3 months ago, and we were so very close, that it was mentally scary how alike we were, it was like we had known each other our whole lives, and had finally made peace with ourselves through each other. Thing is, we met online, and because of that, he believed that we would never see each other in person, and that it was pointless. Here and now, he has got a new gf, but now, through this exact moment, I have not given up hope. Why? Because I know and he knows that if we truly do love each other like we know we do, he will wait, and cling to my words forever. There are certain clues within words, reading the meanings within the hidden meanings as they would say, so as you reveiw, see what he truly feels for you. My advice: don't give up hope. Just because one message been sent, and a response hasn't shown up yet, does not nessesarily mean its the end of your relationship. Think back to all the countless things you've shared and review to see: would he be the type of guy to hold fast to our connection no matter the distance? If you still don't know, i would suggest calling him back again. Computer messages, telephone, whatever, find a lengthy conversation to start off to correct yourself if he really does care. If you get scared by thoughts of his harsh rejection, just keep reminding yourself 'don't give up hope, don't give up hope.' That will be your drive for anything you two go on through the future. You have to rely it on your imagination on what exact things you want to ask him, I can't give you all the answers. Just remember, i'm trying to figure out the mystery that is the man as well, so try to take this advice with a grain of salt, i am still in the midst of this puzzle. I wish you the best.
Don't give up hope, no matter what, if all goes well, he will come to! If you he truly cares, he'll send a message back to you, promise! :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 January 2008): Long distance relationships are not easy. And 16 is quite young. It's not the end of the world if you guys take a break and there is nothing to stop you from getting together again in the future. Just because you think it can work doesn't mean he does, and you can't force him to change his mind if he doesn't agree with you. Take his decision with good grace.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 January 2008): i am 16 too and mi and my boyfriend are right now in a long distance relationship! at first it waz okay but as the time went by it gets harder and harder because i love him and its hard to be away from the person you love. if you guys love each other it might get hard not being together! mi and him are not giving up and we are trying to find a way to be together and hope for the best. we trust each other so that is no issue. and we are not giving up in our relationship because we belive we will be together and we are met to be because we love each other. i hope you too try to be together. even though of the distance and hopefully soon you too will be together. just be careful because you won't always be their and something might go wrong. but if you too love each other you guys might be able to mae it work. you too shouldn't give up just now because you might regret it you too should try to stay together if you too love each other and not give up! sorry can't really give better advice
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reader, honkifuluvnicole  +, writes (25 January 2008):
 It is always so hard with these situations, because it just leaves you in such a horrible place.
But it really sounds like you love him and want to stay with him and everything.
And it kind of sounds like he just wants to break up.
The thing is, if you two are meant to be, which you think you are, then you will be.
Time, fate and life will bring you two back together if you are meant to be.
Just give it time, patience. its the best thing you can do, sweetie.
Best of luck.
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reader, 2old4this +, writes (24 January 2008):
 You both are right. It is very hard even for us older folks to have a long distance one. And youre right, if you guys really want to try you could have a chance. But, as hard as it might be, I would say just letting each other go for now might be best. I'm not saying stop talking to each other and never see each other again. I'm just saying you guys talk and just tell each other it's ok to date other people. If you treat it casual like this then you guys wont hate each other later when you do have the chance to really be together. It sucks I know. But if you both agree to kinda just being in love from a distance but free for now it will be better later.
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