How can I convince her to get back in a relationship?

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Question - (2 April 2009)

1 Answers - (Newest, 2 April 2009)

A male age 30-35, anonymous writes:

Okay so this is going to be very long. Me and my ex gf are juniors in high school. We started going out last summer in July. Before me there was this guy that she loved because they were best friends. This guy though was very attatched to her. So when we starts dating he of jealous. And because of this he started texting her all the time and talking to her all the time behind my back.

So while this was going on my gf told me she loved me but I didn't because I thought it's high school and you can't love anyone. But then I did. So I finally told her. We were going really good until about sept/ oct when we started Getting into fights and we both acted like we didn't care. Oct she broke up with me because shed been talking to a senior who she though was good looking and they were going to go to homecoming together. I knew it's be a flavor of the month.

So of course she begs me to get back together with her which I do. We had some rough times but then we replay started loving eachother. We love being together talking and we at so much alike. Until I found out that in sept she spent the night at the first guys house three times in three weekends with her best friend. Her best friend is the one to tell me.My gf has always been honest when I found something out. And both insisted that all they did was kiss and it was towards the start of our relationship and things have changed. I was so hurt and broke up with her for a couple days and realized I needed her in my life.

I gave her another chance. I told myself it'd be the last one. Well about a month ago after having another perfect relationship I found out she had hung out with the first guy who loves her again multiple times and had made out with him. They hung out on our 7 months because I had baseball. Of course when I found out I freaked. She was so sorry for what she did and told me that this guy has had a way of making her do things she didn't want to do. He texted me saying how messes up it was what he did and thy I should forgive her and that he forced himself upon her. I didn't take he back. I was beyond hurt. And she kept begging for forgiveness and for me to take her back. I said I needed time and she said she'd be waiting as long as I needed.

But about two weeks ago it sort if stopped. She wasn't so dependant upon me like the previous 2 weeks and she was happy. This is just as I'm ready to start over again. She tells me she loves me but she isn't in love with me anymore. She knows I'm the best guy for her. She says she doesn't want a relationship because she's finally happy. But she doesn't want to let me go because we've gotten so close and I know everyhing about her and she lost her virginity to me and we have had the best times. She doesn't want to throw it away after going out for 8 months or so. But I can't see myself being anything but a boyfriend to her and can stand seeing her talking with other guys. But she says she doesn't want any relationship and if she did shed be with me. I have such storng feelings for her and know thaty she's changed. I love this girl so much and want her to be happy with me because she even says that I'm the best for her.

I just need help. What should I do? How can I convince her to get back in a relationship. Or even be in love again.

Thanks a lot if you read all of this

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