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*mit thakur
writes:i have been talking to a girl and i like her a lot, we dont often meet so we are in long distance relationship which is okay for me thing is first she used to tell me that she likes when i say romantic things to herbut now she tells me that i should not tell her these things or i should stop my feelings for hershe say if she will like me then she imagine me with other girl , she gets insecured and stressed and she doesnt want thatso she said i shouldnt like hershe also said that she doesnt want to romantically like me because she then gets suspicious and scared that i will hurt her in future and i will hate heri really like her, i will never hurt her, nor i can not "not" have feelings for her, how can i convince her let her have feelings for me toois it possible ?if it is then how can i do that?
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reader, Xearo  +, writes (13 October 2015):
Long distance might be ok for you but as you can see it is not ok for her. You can't simply convince someone that all will be well when it takes more than a few words to prove oneself. Actions speak volumes in relationships. If it was possible then you would know already how to get to her, after all everyone is different on the matter of love and trust. All you can do is continue speaking and writing to her and hope she will come around but even then, where is the relationship going if it is long distance? Are you able to meet her?
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reader, Denizen  +, writes (13 October 2015):
 What is the point of your long distance relationship? What do you imagine happening?
If you are going to remain pen-pals then keep romance in the background. You can't keep reinforcing affection without a basis in reality. ie you actually meet up sometimes.
Even so long-term relationships are extremely testing and only survive, in my opinion, if they have a strong foundation in reality to begin with.
If you hope to move over to where your pen-pal lives and take up a full blown romance then think again.
Relationships are a garden that needs careful cultivation. You can't look after a garden by post.
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