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writes:I need help with my self-control. The thing is that I'm usually pretty calm girl. whenever I'm with friends and family and strangers I like to keep my wits about me and not go overboard, as in getting all hyper, chattering excessively. I can keep calm and summon energy when it's necessary.but...Whenever I get around this one guy I like my self-control goes right out the window. And I love having such control of myself, knowing that I can prevent myself from making mistakes and acting impulsively. But with him, I get all twitchy and I feel like I'm moving around too fast, talking too fast and too loud and should slow the F down. And I hate that. I feel as though I'm not only making a fool of myself in front of everyone, but in front of him as well.And don't give me the cliche about 'you shouldn't care what others think about you'. It isn't solely about what others perceive, it's mainly about the fact that I don't like making unnecessary motions and movements. And I don't like to make an ass of myself, in front of ANYONE. I like knowing I have self-control and self-dicipline (not enough people exercise either of these things around me).But in front of him, I get all...sputtery and clumsy.I hate it.PLEASE HELP!!!! Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 October 2012): Hi There! Your problem is so cute, anyway. Here's what I can say, your reaction is so normal, it actually happens to everyone. Like I myself, if i like someone, sometimes i change how i move, talk or react because of the fact that we get so conscious of that person's presence. Since its normal, there's no way you can change it. But you can control it. Practice how you should behave around him. The good thing is that you are aware that you get clumsy around him. So, from there try to practice to behave as normal as you can around him. If you tend to talk too much, try no to. Just speak as normally as u can.Also i suggest for u to think about other things if his around, don't focus on him. My trick for this cases, I normally use my real life worries things that really scares me or things that i should worry about so i can forget about this person who makes me feel and act odd..Believe me, if you continue acting clumsy around him, its no good. so you have to control it.
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (2 October 2012):
 I could name oodles of girls who react the VERY SAME way when they get around me..... and, quite honestly, I don't know just WHAT to tell you....
We guys who have this "animal magnetism" are unaware just HOW disabling it is to you girls.... we just live out lives - unassuming, as it is - BUT when drive the bunch of you CRAZY!!!!
We're sorry.... and hope that you can figure out just how to cope with this.... in the future...
Good luck....
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