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writes:Hello, my question is about porn.I am a recovering porn addict who is currently in the process of trying to break that addiction. From a moral standpoint, I see nothing wrong with porn, masturbation or anything along those lines, so long as they fall within the letter of the law and do not control the lives of anyone who chooses to pursue such interests.Unfortunately for me, pornography was controlling my life. It interfered with my life, school, and gave me a lot of emotional baggage to work through. Of course, someone doesn't just decide to quit cold-turkey for no reason, so obviously, there was someone who played a key part in that. A girl I met on-line and fell in love with inspired me to fight this addiction with all I have(through no pestering or judgement of hers), but I find myself struggling not to slip back into those habits.My question is: how can I safely balance my normal human urges without slipping back into addiction? Trying to balance a healthy release of sexual energy, while try to recover from a powerful addiction, with no other outlet than yourself leaves me confused, and seeking advice -- what do you all think?
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 March 2009): I remember one of my friends had a thing programed into hes computer were he would watch porn one a week for an hour. I wish I would have did that because I have a porn issue too. I think that stopping all together would be the best solution, but for a lot of people it isnt practical to do. I'd rather not watch porn than it control my life, and there are acations when I relaps back into it but I have friends dealing with it too. We help eachother and talk abuot our issues, and keep eachother acountable the best thing is honisty without it there would be no point in talking to eachother about it then.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 March 2009): It's compulsive behavior and you need to treat it as such. Compulsive gambling or something is not so very much different.
Spend more time around real live girls too. (No, not strip clubs! I mean make some friends & date people!) The real thing really leaves porn in the dust. Real people remaind you that personality and connection is so powerful too.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 March 2009): Use the reccomendations of all the 12-step programs! Go to an SA mtg. if it is difficult on your own. There is a slogan in NA, An addict alone is in bad company!
Another slogan...and most beneficial is ONE DAY AT A TIME!
I don't think you have to stop all sexual activity to overcome a porn addiction. Just don't use porn as your stimulant.
I am not personally familar with this addiction, so I don't know what the do's and don't's would be. Hopefully someone who has conquered this addiction will respond and give you more detailed suggestions!
Just another note on addictions in general...a loved one can point you in the right direction, but you have to want this really bad! In other words...you can lead a horse to water but you can't make him drink! And that I do Know first hand!
Good Luck!
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