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writes:So my husband and i were recently married 2 months ago. a couple days ago i found out that he had sex with a married woman while we were engaged. He has hid this secret from me for so long now that it doesnt even seem real. The only reason he was forced to tell me is because the girl was on her way over to talk to him because she is pregnant.Im really at a loss at what to do because he is begging for me to forgive him but at the same time cheating is a done deal for me. and had i known this before we were married i would be gone. but now we have tooken vows and its not that easy to just walk away.Does anyone have any advice on what to do. take him back file for divorce? and if i stya with him how do u ever get past it?
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 March 2009): Dump his ass. Find yourself a real man. A man that loves you and will not hurt you in such a way.Get out early while you still can. Good luck. Don't put up with him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 March 2009): Human beings are driven to do things not solely on one thing, two things or a few things. Often, they are driven to do things through a combination of desires, moods, pressure and other influences. Knowing that each individual is capable of compromising ones principles, including yourself regardless of how firm you may believe yourself to be, you should step away from the situation and look at this a little more objectively.Indeed, you are hurt that he had given his body away to another person, even for a single moment and indeed, he has withheld this information from you. There is no right or wrong answer or good or bad advice anyone can give you. Ultimately, it is what he is willing to do for you that you can accept or reject. Trust is built through time and experiences. Are you willing to give him and yourself more time, or would you like to reject him and seek out equanimity on your own?
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 March 2009): I'm so sorry this has happened to you what a bummer! But be strong! The infidelity rate for married folks seems to be at a all time high these days. I personally think people are getting married too young and people just don't have good morales anymore. It's sad. But anyway My advice is this, If you can not see yourself ever forgiving him and being able to forget, Then you need to end it now. Hey it's only been 2 months you probly can get an annulment. Good luck with whatever you choose and stay strong!
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reader, asian tealeaf  +, writes (11 March 2009):
 no kids yet? file for divorce, hes only sorry because he got caught. and nows hes fathered a baby.... guilty as charged. why should YOu have to be the one to forgive? sometimes one has to cut their losses. so, if he had not knocked her up, would he EVER of confessed? what if YOu found out yrs later? or after YOu got pregnant? then things really would be complicated. but, there not. you have to realize, his wedding vows went out the door when he stuck his dick in her. even if it did happen before marriage. and his tears are not genuine, only the tears of a man who now has to face the fact he got caught. he is turning to you for comfort because of HIS mistake. and, its evident in the ever growwing belly of the other woman... no, you are young, you are resilient, you will overcome this. dont let his cries and false promises guile yoyou into allowing him back into ur life.because sweety, the other woman will now always be a part of his life. and whos to say he wont be tempted to have another go at her after the babys born?he was obviously sexually atttracted to her. it does not go out the window, you just cant turn off ur emotions, or the will power of a dick thats tasted the sweetness of another woman.what will his excuse be next time? he fell on some woman? he was raped? his cock wandered off while he was at work late? his cock ordered take out? u are a free woman my dear. exercise your right and make him feel your grief, let him know he CANNOT do this to you, or any woman. its not right. and he did the crime, YOu should not have to do the time.
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