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41-50,
anonymous
writes:well i've been dating this guy for 2 1/2 months now. he spoils me and only wants to make me happy. hes like my best friend. we never seem to run out of things to talk about and he accepts me and loves me no matter what my hair and makeup looks like. the thing i don't really like is that he takes everything i say way too seriously and will pout forever because of it. and hes always texting his girl friends that we both know like him, even though he says there's nothing to worry about, i cant help but feel insecure that they'll try to steal him from me. hes also going into the marines in a year and i really don't know if i can wait alone for 8 years hoping he might just come back alive.and now my ex walks back into the picture. just when i thought i was getting over him. he was my first love. he took my virginity. we were together for a year. in the beginning it was the perfect romance. we talked about getting married, having children and growing old together. i truly thought i would be with him forever. he did cheat on me once and i broke up with him immediately but he begged me for like 2 months to give him a 2nd chance and that he only wanted me, so i did. the reason we broke up for good was because the last month or so we were together he didn't want to do anything but lay up in my bed. and i wanted more than that. now he says hes changed and grown up and that letting me go was the biggest mistake of his life. i still love him. i realized i cant just make that feeling go away. I never expected myself to be in this kind of situation because I'm not the type to cheat, but i feel like i am emotionally. i can tell that hes changed somewhat but I'm afraid that if i leave my current boyfriend for him and it doesn't work out, then i just screwed myself out of a loving relationship. but if i wait too long and my current boyfriend leaves me for war and dies, then i have neither. i just don't know what to do, or who to choose.
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reader, Jmtmj  +, writes (15 June 2010):
 I propose a series of tests, each one more devilish than the last... or perhaps a race around the world...? MUHAHA!!
Tricky situation, it'd suck if you lost both of them... Do you love both of them the same? Maybe write a list of each ones pro's and con's?
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 June 2010): Your Ex is an Ex for a reason usually things do not work out the next time either. Your Ex already had his chance how many does he want? Tell your ex if he really loves you he will wait for you and try the relationship out that your in that is making you happy now. If you mean that much to your Ex he will wait for you and if not then he wasn't going to try to win your heart over anyways. Men tell us what they think we want to hear because women have emotions and dreams of a fairytail life and we are fed with words of hope. Take your time on deciding its no race.
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