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writes: I am 16 and I really like this boy at school. I really get on with him I find him really easy to talk to. I really want to find out if there's a chance that anything might happen but I'm scared of rejection. How should I approach this? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 November 2005): See, this is why people hate high school. The usual method is to let a friend let his friend know that you might say yes if he asked you to the harvest ball. Yuck. I am throwing up writing it. During one of these session in which you find it so easy to talk to him, say "you know, I'm not dating anyone". Those words exactly. Not "I wish I could find someone to date" or some other vague phrase. Read this site- it's full of pie-eyed lovers who interpret their friend who said that as looking right past them as suitable dating material. *IF* you say it clearly, and he has any interest, he'll ask for a date in a couple of weeks. At least he will put you down as a candidate for romantic interest, not just a fellow member of Stage Crew. And please don't try going joining his clubs and hanging out together in some big group and then come back in two years posting about you're each others best friends and you thought you were a couple even though you went out in groups and how it hurts you to find out that he is dating this girl now. Blah!
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 November 2005): Rejection is part of life. If you don't take calculated chances, you also don't enjoy the rewards of success. Talk to him. About anything. Let him get to know you. Ask him to join you to study for a test, or something. Make it a fairly neutral event, so it doesn't look like you are asking him for a " DATE!" Don't make too big a deal out of that first meeting. How about, " HI. I'm ________. We see each other ( where ever.) Could you help me with my ______ homework sometime? " Or " Would you like to buy me a soda at the ( local hangout) sometime? He may reject you, but you may be pleasantly surprised that he says " Yes". That is the chance you take. My second wife, who is 15 years younger than I am, asked me out to a women's basketball game, because she got free tickets at her job. She slipped a note under my door at work because she was too nervous to ask me face to face! Sound familiar? I called her and accepted, even though I would rather drive spikes through my shoes than watch basketball! It turned out she was not really interested in the game either, and I found out she enjoyed shooting pool. So, we left the game at half-time, and went to a local pool hall where we played pool for the rest of the evening. She was and is a very good pool player, and out played me all night long. We had fun, learned more about each other, and I decided to ask her out for another date. We married a couple of years later, and while the marriage did not last, I have never regretted saying yes to that invitation, or to the years we had together. Good luck to you.
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reader, bootie09 +, writes (14 November 2005):
Well first of all does he seem like he could possibly be thinking the same you are, cause if so just talk to him about what he thinks about you too, since he's easy to talk to this shouldnt be as hard as you think, rejection isnt so bad if you dont know the person too well, maybe you should keep talking with him and then after getting to know each other a little more go for the kill!
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