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41-50,
anonymous
writes:My ex-fiance and I split up about 2 months ago. About two weeks ago she approached me via email and we have been talking daily since then, and seen each other almost every day since, but only for a few minutes, just to see each other and talk to each other. We split up over some miscommunication, and since we started to talk to each other, we've cleared the air, and have been learning more about each other than we did when we were together for 4 years. She has stated that she loves me, (although I'm not sure if she is in-love or not) considers me a great friend, has said at least twice that she would like to start over again, and is not dating anyone. She is very very independent, and has an array of male friends. She has made it clear that she is not dating any of them, that they are just friends. She's said some pretty emotional things to me about how she wishes it wouldn't have happened that way, and she consistantly asks about my family. She says she cares deeply for me, I'm a special and wonderful person to her, etc. To me, its a green light. However, she's left subtle hints that she wants to be chased/pursued again. Her 22-year-old brother broke up with his gf 2 months before my ex and I split up, and she made sure I knew that his ex was chasing him. She also mentioned that she really liked being chased at the beginning of our relationship.so...How should I handle this. If I mess this up, I'm fairly certain I could lose it quickly again. Our communication is improving considerably, but I would obvously like to have her back in my arms, not talking to her on the phone/computer. How is the best way to pursue my ex? She hates pressure, however I think a little isn't terribly bad. I was putting pressure on her right after the breakup to get back with her, and it pushed her away. Now she's back,and I want to keep her.
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reader, pinktopaz +, writes (14 July 2009):
You two have been engaged...wasn't the chase over a long time ago? If she wants to play games and you're up for it, then to each their own. To me, when she says she wants to be chased, she wants you to call her 24/7 and always want to try and be with her, while she makes up excuses as to why she can't talk or see you?
I would say, no pressure. Treat her like a friend...then she'll start pressuring you.
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reader, babymama99 +, writes (13 July 2009):
 Just do what you did when you first started dating. you didn't run her off then did you? in fact you've been together long enough to become engaged, so you must have been doing something right.
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